Any words of encouragement to kick my (ex) boyfriend out?

It sounds like the two of you are pretty incompatible. If you hang on to this relationship, you’ll likely be facing the same problems in the future, again and again. This breakup will likely free both of you up to have a happier future. Loving someone (including yourself) means you want the best for them. Stay strong!

Why are you still there? I know you have invested time but it seems that’s all you have in common. Get yourself free so you can find someone who appreciates you for who you are and someone you can appreciate for who they are.
I think this is one of the destructive results of porn. his guy thinks that she should like being bullied and called a whore.

Yeah, aim for his nuts!
If this prick calls you a slut then you’re doing the right thing, get rid.

My husband had a hard time seperating me from his guy friends in how he treated me at first, because he hadn’t been in many relationships. It takes time and patience. When I told him that I was not one of his guy friends and he needed to be different with me and explained exactly how he could treat me differently, he finally got it. .

We still have a very playful relationship which is great, but he hasn’t called me names like yours does, that is disrespectul and putting you down imo.

Sounds to me that your guy just needs to do some growing up if he wants to be in a committed relationship. If you both decide it’s worth the effort, then do it. He definately needs to learn that rough-housing with a woman has definate boundaries that he needs to respect.

Whose name is on the lease? (Or worse, on the mortgage?)

One of you needs to be out of there right away and permanently, despite the “inconvenience”. Assuming that you’re trying for an amicable breakup here – and kudos to you for that so far, at least – then give him a window (assuming he’s the one to take off and leave you behind) when he can come back to retrieve his things and you won’t be present at that time.

Perhaps in time you can retrieve some part of a friendship, if you care to, but now is the time for being apart and making that stick. I sense that if you allow him to stay or “reconsider” his words (and deeds), then you’ll be opening yourself up to abuse of one kind or another. The parts about him “playing rough” despite your objection speaks volumes to me. Get him gone.

The house is yours? pack his things and put them outside. Change all keys.

Make decisions like that with your brain, not your heart. There might be some regrets if you go with your brain, There will definitely be big regrets if you go with your heart. He doesn’t have the right traits to be what you want. He doesn’t have respect for you is the most important negative. He is willing to hurt you physically and mentally. That’s a real deal breaker right there. You are worth much more than that. You’re wasting time with him! Be strong!
You can manage to be unavailable if you worry about being his talking you into or out of anything. He needs to grow up.

If he believes in the power of voodoo, and your post suggests he does, then tell him you’ve hexed him. The longer he stays, the more bad luck will befall him.

The truth is, the longer he stays, the more back luck will befall you. I vote for an early and swift evacuation.

Move out to a friend’s or your mom’s til saturday.

Stand fast and firm and end it !!! He sounds like an abuser to me. He will not change. Do not become a statistic.

And for Pete’s sake don’t become pregnant with him !!!

He is toxic. Seriously, if your concern is about anyone else ever loving you again that really isn’t a issue. You just need to go to a Linux convention and the guys will be lining up.

Let us think for a bit…. What do you want out of this relationship? You obviously aren’t getting it. You are wasting time being frustrated and unhappy while a guy that would make you happy is standing in line behind you at 7/11.

Like luckeyguy said men don’t really change and you can’t fix them. You might be able to get him to put the toilet seat down but you can’t stop him from being a selfish dick.

Hey sweetie,
You can do this. It won’t be easy and you’re probably going to have a lot of second thoughts, but it’s for the best. He’s not good for you. He’s shown you this over and over again.
Stay strong, stand your ground, and leave a footprint on his ass as he’s walking out the door!
Also, change the locks!

This is straight up abuse. End the cycle now, and don’t be with men that hurt you or call you names.

Just keep going back and reading what you wrote in the body of your question.

If that doesn’t convince you, none of us will.

You should really go to someone else’s house, if you can. I’m sure you could use some friendly company and support. If there’s no one near enough, at least try not to be there when he picks up his things. When my boyfriend and I broke up, I moved out of the apartment we shared and I collected my things when he was on holiday. It was much nicer for me, because I had the possibility to say goodbye to the apartment and to our living together. Maybe that would be good for him, to process. Not that I’m saying you should necessarily think of him, because it doesn’t sound as if he is doing his best to be nice to you at all….but you will be better off if you try to avoid being around on his moving day, I think.
Keep your head up, you can do it!

Your relationship with this guy is nothing but drama. According to your other questions he leaves you at home alone, takes your car so you can’t do anything and this is your house he is living in. He also wanted you to have a baby, but didn’t want to marry you.
Now he wants to make sure you aren’t pregnant and wants to leave.

You would be so much better off if you left this manipulating bully.
However, I don’t agree with you leaving your home til he gets out. He is volitile and there is no telling what he will do. He could destroy your things and your home, or just never leave. You may want to get the police to help escort him out. If you go this route though, you should be ready to cut all ties with him.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

As creepo as this guy sounds, if you let him move while you’re gone, he might steal from you. If you do plan to have him take his stuff when you’re gone, try to make sure you don’t have anything of value there.

http://www.fluther.com/164981/fiance-or-not/

http://www.fluther.com/164877/is-my-boyfriends-behavior-acceptable/

Time to break out the arsenic. I vote for poisoning him and dumping him in the nearest landfill under the cover of darkness. No wait, an alligator infested swamp would be better.

Somebody is in rare form tonight. lol
I won’t mention any names ^^

It’s only ‘playing rough’ if both parties are consenting. If you don’t want to play, and he continues, he’s abusing you.

Get him gone. Sooner the better.

Your words:

He wants me to take a morning after pill to ensure I’m not pregnant. I’m not having any pregnancy symptoms & have been using birth control.

he plays rough & hurts me. He seems not to care because he continues to do it. Also, when he plays around he calls me a slut, ho.

He seems to be critical of most things I do. He also doesn’t show me affection. He doesn’t like to hug, hold hands, kiss or cuddle. ...he pushes my hand away and tells me to never do that again.

he thinks his exgf put a voodoo hex on him

This guy sounds like the biggest asshole of all time, or like he has some undiagnosed mental problems, or both. If he does things that hurt you, that’s abuse! And if he’s constantly critical, or emotionally distant, that could be emotional abuse.

Honestly, from your words, I can’t see any redeeming qualities in him. Sometimes people get into bad, unhappy situations just because you get so used to being with them. Having someone around, even if it’s unhealthy, seems easier than being alone, because you’re scared to make a big change or to be lonely.

It’s hard to see it now, but you will be so much happier without him. Being in an unhealthy relationship can feel safe in a weird way, because you get so used to the routine, and you get used to being unhappy with this person. The guy you’ve been with sounds unstable and manipulative. When you make a clean break and start over as a single person, it’s amazing how the horizons open up. He’s treating you terribly, and it seems like you can see that. Don’t let it continue! With him out of the picture, you’ll be amazed at all the freedom you have, and the nice people you might meet.

If you want a laugh and some silly breakup stories, check out yo, should I dump this asshole?

Reread all the answers above. They are in agreement. The relationship needs to end.
Do it!

If you have a problem with him again you will find the solution in the mirror.

Based upon your previous questions, he’s a no winner. If you want him to leave, consider having someone you know come and be present when he gets out, to limit the chance of him acting up. Please re-read the previous questions you asked (that I linked above) and read the responses to them, to remind yourself what an idiot this guy seems to be. He takes your car, visits his friends and leaves you home, lives in your house, has some relationship with this other woman – of course he is having second thoughts and wants to stay. He’s realizing that he’ll have to get up first month’s rent, security, will have no car. He is no fool. I wouldn’t have been surprised after your last question if he tried to get you pregnant so you feel obligated to keep him around.