If the person’s a co-worker, think carefully about how much you want to stay at your job. Do you enjoy your work, have nice supervisors, and like your (other) colleagues? Is the pay good, and is the workplace a pleasant place to be? In other words, would this be a great job if not for the toxic co-worker?
If no, I’d find another job. While it’s true that the evil person would have “won” by getting rid of me, nobody really keeps score in such matters.
If yes, I’d fight to stay. Some techniques:
- Know that he/she is extremely threatened by you. Maybe you have more education and skills, or are physically attractive, or are preferred by the boss, or do your job so well that he/she’s intimidated, or are popular among colleagues, or… If you didn’t spark this person’s insecurities, he/she wouldn’t mistreat you.
- Remember that it probably isn’t personal. Anyone so vindictive and hateful will be the same way to other people. He/she might have a long history of driving co-workers out of the company.
- It seems likely that other colleagues despise this person just as much as you do. Ugliness doesn’t do a good job of containing itself, and poison spreads widely. Spend as much time as possible with the nice people and get to know them better; there’s strength in numbers.
- Don’t engage the person or stoop to those low tactics.
- In a mirror at home, practice three very useful facial expressions: (1) looking at someone as if he/she is completely insane and unfathomable, (2) acting as if you’re smelling something foul and revolting, and (3) regarding somebody with complete disdain and dismissiveness. When the person mocks or insults you, just use one of those expressions.
- Hope for some good luck and that fairness will prevail. Sometimes, the wheels of justice grind slowly, but they do grind away.