What condition suits me the most?

I am not big on sticking a label from the DSM on a condition or behavior. We’re all crazy, just at different points on the different spectrums and all in our own unique one of a kind snowflake way.

What I think is most important with any behavior that is negatively impacting your life (and it sounds like this one is), is that you work either alone or with a professional on behavior modification. The first step to change is awareness of the problem, so congratulations! You’re already on the way. The next step is to “catch yourself in the act,” See if you can become more aware of the behavior as it is happening – or immediately after. Don’t chastise yourself, just notice. Then see if you can’t find yourself on the verge of saying something that is not appropriate – and substitute it with something more appropriate and more calm. You can still be bubbly and show enthusiasm and interest in others without blurting out something that will make people uncomfortable. Notice the reactions you get. Sit with the experience a bit…no need to rush on, do anything else, make anything happen.

If you find after a while of trying to modify your behavior on your own, that you are unsuccessful, recruit a therapist to give you more tools and techniques.

As to your question “what is it with me?” I’d say it’s just that you are a nice friendly person who has learned an unfortunate habit of interacting in a manner that no longer serves you. Now you can begin to unlearn it. I have a feeling you’ll do just fine – as awareness is the most key component of any change, and you have it.

”...asks very personal questions easily that you wouldn’t ask anyone that bluntly”
_Try to solve the problem by process of elimination. Don’t ask questions that are too personal, blubtly or not, and see what happens then.

You probably need to learn to filter yourself. No one does or should say or ask everything that’s on their mind (unless you don’t care about insulting/embarrassing/angering other people, or if you don’t care about putting other people on the spot or delving into personal business). Most people, by the time they become legal adults, learn to read the cues, figure out the nuances, understand the norms of their particular communities. If you haven’t been able to do that yet, you might need to get some professional help from a doctor or a therapist or a counselor. It sounds like your heart is in the right place, since you’ve realized that you might have a wee bit of a problem.

You need to learn to shut off your Inner Sheldon Cooper. That character is funny on TV, but people like that are unfortunate in real life.

Before you speak, ask yourself if your question is necessary, intrusive, hurtful or any of your business. If your question is likely to make someone feel uncomfortable (unless it’s a criminal or a douche-bag) then don’t ask it.

Listen to Ken Robinson’s TED Talk about labeling and trying to jam everybody into the same mold. It’s a great talk and full of fun, but he really gets at the sort of ADHD misdiagnosis that often stifles creativity, dance, motion, art, theater. Find your niche and be it. Enjoy it. Move around while you listen, because it’s almost 20 minutes long, but you need to hear it all.