Why do some girls feel insecure about their female organs? (NSFW)

I am not insecure about mine. I always have sex with the light on. The last time I had sex with the lights off, I was probably a silly giggly teenager. I like to watch us have sex. I like to look at him and see his enjoyment. Why would anybody not want that?

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The fact that the femaleS of western culture are consistently barraged with the message that they are inadequate might have something to do with it.

I like sex with the light off, but it has nothing to do with what’s between my legs. First of all, a bright light over my head doesn’t feel very sexy or romantic. Second, I’m self conscious about my body right now and having the lights off enables me to let go a bit more during sex.

Women naturally have lower self esteem and a worse body image compared to men, in general. This is statistically true. I’m not sure we are more self conscious about our genitalia, though, especially compared to our bellies, thighs, arms, etc.

I can, however, imagine that some women dislike how they look down there. Not all women, but some.

Women aren’t the only self conscious ones. I didn’t lay eyes on my husbands ass until well after we started having sex. I’m not sure why, because I’m an ass girl and he has a good one.

Women care about the way they look more than most men. It’s just a fact. So, if a women is worrying about the way she looks, she won’t enjoy herself as much in bed. That could be a reason for wanting the lights off.

Females have been beaten down, and subjected to double standards about their sexuality for centuries. Those women become generations of mothers who have had no clue how to teach their daughters how to celebrate their sexuality. This becomes imbedded in a female’s very DNA, since we are all subject to the collective DNA of our species.

The only way out, is for females to wake up out of the oppression of corrosive and archaic convictions about ‘sinful sexuality’, that have been harbored predominantly by outspoken, dominating patriarchal types, and directed specifically towards women since the ‘invention’ of the bible.

The good news is, that within past decades, especially since the sixties, many women have broken out of that spell and told its obnoxious, rebounding echo under no uncertain circumstances where it can go and what it can do to itself.

They must each claim their own beauty, potency and self confirming power in order to experience sexuality equally with the freedom loving male, or female, whichever the case may be.

Females also must contend with a ginormous advertising beast that feeds upon their self image to create a place for its products.

They are told what is beautiful, how they should look, and how awful it is if they don’t fit the image. So they have to be strong, rebelliously self confirming, and deviously intelligent to see the light and say its okay that it happens to be shining on their flower of bliss.

Due to multiple negative influences of western society, women compare themselves to women who are held out as examples of beauty. Even those women do not really look as they appear in pictures and commercials. Between special lighting, body make-up and all kinds of PhotoShop magic done after the photo session, the image does not even match the real person who posed for the picture. Women of all shapes and sizes are beautiful to their partners. As her partner you must help her to feel and understand that she is perfect and delightful just as she is and that even in dim light, her beauty delights and excites you. Help her to relax and get comfortable with her own body and both of you will enjoy lovemaking more. Take things slow while she learns to appreciate her own body and yours. If you truly care about her, then together you will overcome her uncertainty about how she looks.

Lights off sex may have nothing to do about insecurity. I am equal opportunity personally.

Truth be told sometimes I wanted the lights out because I didn’t want to look at the guy or want eye contact. This happens most often after the departure of an ex that I am fond of. Or when the relation is new. The intimacy doesnt always feel there. I don’t want to fake it.

As to insecurity about genitalia. Its not like we can take out our dicks and play with them see them. It takes concious will to investigate that part thorughly visually. I remember people always laughing about thw mirror self exploration vagina monologues and the ilk brought about. The whole idea silly and ridiculous. I never felt compelled until I had an apartment with horrid mirrors the huge closet sliding ones. I had a very active sex life then so…

I guess I felt divorced or removed from the mysteries of the female. Sure diagrams and once a threesome but this was different. I finally understood….

But the others are right about females and insecurity… Some more then others.

I don’t care if the lights are on or off. Although, as I get older and have put on a little more weight I do worry about my stomach looking fat, I think if I was not married I would worry about it even more while having sex.

I really think if your first sex partner loves your girly parts it is like a gift. It can set the tone for the rest of your life. That does not have to be true, but I think it really helps.

From what I understand they photoshop photos now so that the vulva looks a certain way and they can clean up the pubic hair to look just so. So, young women might be seeing that and comparing themselves? I’m not sure about that though.

Also, women aren’t as visual, so lights out for a woman might help her focus, while lights on for a man lets him stare at the tits bobbing up and down. Another men are from mars woman are from venus problem I guess.

Ladies some of us guys share the same feelings. We worry that you won’t like our bodies or our junk. But this has an upside. We love your bodies and want you to feel our appreciation, so we are willing to work more to show you this. Talk to your guy, tell him what you feel and think. If he’s a good guy he will take you in his arms and tell you how he feels.

We live in a World where women are constantly being judged by the way they look,so it isn’t surprising that many women feel insecure about their appearance.I don’t think we must be worried about how the genitals looks after all it’s just how we all are made.It’s quite normal that some feel self-conscious about their genitals, particularly younger women because as they mature their vulva changes to look darker which they may find unattractive,but it’s all normal.
We must be confident with our WHOLE body to be able to have wonderful sex and I bet men won’t care what it looks like if he really cares about you.He will love you just the way you are!

Lights on and boobs, butt, belly and vajay on full display. Nothing shy about this girl. I got it. I like to shake it. I want you to see it.

I am 51 and have sex with the lights on and or in broad daylight. I haven’t always felt this confident it came with age. Which ironically so did saggy bits. I perhaps understand sexuality a little more in that it is more about the sensual pleasures of it and the excitement of it as opposed to what my belly looks like. Sex is about mind play, psychological turn-on, energy and arousal.

I doubt very much if any guy is watching my ass and thinking ‘Sheesh’ in a negative way.

Media puts so much emphasis on body and looks for both men and women, women were subjected to it for a much longer period of time. Lately they have focused on females vulva and how big or small their lips should be.

This is unacceptable and it only takes a woman herself to put a stop to that.

If I have moments of insecurity about certain body parts I look for a fetish video on it. Trust me some men pay a fortune to look at your wobbly belly, big butt or droopy boobs. In that way porn has evolved thank goodness.