Halloween costumes, did dad get out foxed?
(disclaimer) –This is not a personal incident of mine, I have no kids. The age of the daughter is only mentioned to bring perspective of the father in better view. This is not an indictment on bad parenting or not, or unruly teenagers, or not.
The facts:
Daughter 15ish chooses a sexy French maid outfit to go trick or treating with other classmates who are friends. They are doing in their neighborhood and the next subdivision over. Dad disapproves and tells her she will not leave the house in any costume that suggest a hooker, sexy maid, nurse, pussy cat, dominatrix, nun, cheerleader, naughty school teacher, or stripper. She has one of her artsy girlfriends spray red and white body paint on her in a striped barber pole pattern from toes to neck, then she wraps herself in many layers of cellophane and nothing else (and nothing else means just that) but red and white striped socks and red sneakers. She goes to leave and dad says oh no. She cries foul; she adhered to the costume restrictions he named, and she is going tricks or treats as a candy cane. If he were to ask you if he was right to forbid her to leave what would you say? She did not choose any costume on his black list, to keep credibility would he have to let her go even if he felt she did an end around on his black list, or should he stick to his guns even though she says he is reneging on his word?
No you don’t get to know my take on it, not that you care anyhow, so as to not taint anyone’s response as to what they would say to the dad.
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Theoretically….
Sounds like a good time for a conversation about the difference between the spirit and the letter of rules and laws. She’s followed the letter, but not the spirit.
If he’s still uncomfortable with her new costume, for the same reasons, then the same rule should apply. A theoretical teen would know she’s being cute and not actually following his intent.
It’s like if he asked her to eat everything on her plate and she dumped it on the floor to try and get out of it. That wouldn’t fly.
worth noting that he still needs to be the adult in the situation and explain himself
Oh hell no.
Girlfriend just bought herself a night alone in her room.
Yet another question about women’s clothing!
Just because he didn’t explicitly say “you can’t go out as a naked candy cane” doesn’t mean she should be able to leave the house in such a costume. A 15-year-old is plenty old enough to know what her dad meant by his message.
And a 15-year-old girl would never leave my house in any costume mentioned, including (and maybe especially) the candy cane. If she has a problem with that, she can stay home for the night.
@FutureMemory – the clothing of promiscuous teenagers, especially. I’m detecting a bit of an obsession.
That’s nuts. If he let her out like that his judgment would be in question. How did this story end?
This sounds more like a joke or urban legend than a real story.
I remember watching sitcoms where parents would make a rule and the kids would figure out a way to sneak out of it and the parents were always “Durrr.. I guess I have to let them do it because they figured out a way to weasel around the rules”
I have NEVER met a real parent who thought like this.
She knew exactly what her dad meant. She was being a brat and he shouldn’t allow her to go. She should be grounded.
Also, he could say she was dressed in a way a hooker or stripper would dress. Also, he could get CPS on his case for allowing a minor to go out like that… also also also… so many reasons this wouldn’t fly.
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