I live in the Tampa Bay area now, and so far (I have been here several months) I don’t see anything significant. The people I have met are from all over the country and we have that in common. A lot of midwesterners, and my college T-shirts can start a nice conversation. I went to school at Michigan State University. So, knowing different places around the country is helpful, and being open in general. I have been meeting people mostly at my zumba class and the pool at my apartment complex, possibly I would feel differently if I were working. Although, my husband is working and he says it is more “normal” here.
We moved from the Memphis, TN area, and people overall were very congenial. Lots of religion talk though. I kind of stayed away from it for the most part. Said very little or changed the subject. With close friends we might have a religious discussion more about curiousity, never debating really. Also, most people were fairly right wing, so I avoided politics, although some people who knew I was fairly liberal sometimes purposely started things up, which annoyed me. But, there was plenty to connect with people on. The local baseball team a lot of people were into, but not a big deal if you knew nothing about it. We were part of a car club so we connected with people there. My neighbors who I got along with well weren’t from the local area. There was way more talk about race than I had ever experienced, which was frustrating. Such a big divide culturally between whites and blacks there. A nice thing was people did a lot of get togethers, pot lucks, wine tasting parties, etc. Also in TN an absence of talk about ones own lineage and the food and traditions that go along with such things. Here in Clearwater it is back to knowing people I meet are Greek or Persian or Italian and a total nonissue, we just know.
Oh, and one more thing about TN, neighbors were very neighborly and strangers were congenial, but the service often was lacking in stores and restaurants. Not the majority of the time, but enough that it was noticeable. Also, you could not be very direct or something. I never quite figured it out. People were defensive. Like if I had a problem at a store and was just basically giving feedback, not even worked up in any way or angry, they just could not handle it. Could not see it was an opportunity to improve. I just had the Best Buy here in FL really screw something up, and they handled it so well. They understood I just wanted to resolve it, I wasn’t looking to get anyone in trouble. In TN I don’t know if it was my delivery that screwed up situation all too often.
I lived in Boca Raton, FL for many years and we also all knew who was Italian, Jewish, Cuban, Colombian, didn’t matter, but we knew, and some of us spoke Spanish. People were not as friendly in some way like in TN, but sill it wasn’t very hard to make friends. Lots of people from NY there, and I was raised by NY’ers so that feels very normal to me. Religion almost never came up except to acknowledge a holiday. I don’t one person ever said they would pray for me or asked me where I go to church the 14 years I lived there, nor where I grew up in MD. In TN that happened quite a bit. In southeast FL it would be shocking to me to here someone speak out negatively about gay people or go on about negative stereotypes about any group.