I emailed my ex and told him I miss him. Big mistake?

It was an honest emotion that you were motivated to share with someone with whom you’ve had a loving relationship. You have nothing to feel silly about. Don’t beat yourself up. I recently sent a similar message to two people I haven’t talked to in decades. I got no reply from either, but I feel good that I did it and am not the least bit sorry.

One message was fine. Any more is stalking. Quit now.

Time to let it go. Someone out there wants to make you feel special & loved, but not that guy.

It’s been done. Don’t beat yourself up over it, don’t dwell on it. Just move on.

Don’t contact him again. Look for someone or something else to focus on. If I were you, I would stay away from his town for a while.

@Styx please don’t feel silly. You were just responding to what your heart wanted. I’ve been there and done that. It’s funny how I can know I broke up with someone for a legitimate reason, yet want to convince myself that he really cared more than he let on. So naturally, I sent a similar email out hoping that he would respond with a “I’m a fool, I shouldn’t have let you go, I miss you” and I receive the same nonchalance about my feelings that led to the breakup in the first case.

Maybe we just want to remember people as better than they actually were? I don’t know, but don’t feel bad about it. You were just being honest about how you feel.

We’ve all done this at some point in our lives. If it gave you any measure of comfort, it’s ok. Even if it didn’t, it’s still ok.
This doesn’t make you weak. You walked away when you knew you weren’t happy. That makes you strong.
Don’t beat yourself up over it. Keep moving forward and find that person who will love you and give you what you need to make you happy.

Ah, the joys of mortification! It will feel for a little while like this is the worst thing you’ve ever done, but soon enough you’ll forget it. Just let yourself off the hook for having texted and re-texted him, and don’t do it again. The only way to “get your dignity back” is to not mind that this happened. You can’t chase after a mistake to take it back. That would only make it worse.

He’s not interested, going by that email.

As I found out to my chagrin, people don’t necessarily react in the way you want them to. Don’t beat yourself up, but let him go. And I’ve said before, I still an Ex should just refer to a spouse. Anyone else is just a former boyfriend or girlfriend.

Maybe a bit, but not seriously. You may still take it to to that level, if you now start dwelling on it, though.

Just let it go. Don’t be embarrassed, who cares what he thinks. Learn from your mistakes and hold your head high. He lives in another town so it’s not like you will have to see him. Move on.

E-mail him back and explain that you don’t miss EVERYTHING about him and your relationship, just certain parts that anyone would miss if in your situation. You don’t want him to feel TOO special!

Big mistake.

Your e-mail to him was kind and pleasant and truthful, without sounding clingy or desperate. So that’s good. Plus you got to get your feelings out to him.

Because he was neglecting you, making you feel the need to break up with him, makes me think that the relationship probably would have ended, eventually anyway. That part sucks, but it happened.

At this point, because of what he said (or rather didn’t say) in his reply back to you, it sounds like he’s totally OK with being broken up and probably doesn’t want to get back together, which is OK, because if you did get back together with him, it would probably just end again, and you don’t need to drag this out any longer. You need to let yourself heal.

Don’t expect that he and you will ever be “just friends” either. I know it works for some people, but for most people it doesn’t. One person (probably you) will always have some type of stronger feelings towards the other person, and you can’t carry on a platonic relationship with someone, when the feelings aren’t mutual, or aren’t on the same page.

You gave it your best shot, now walk away, with no regrets. If you see him again, sometime, don’t try to become friends, just be polite and cordial, but realize that this relationship has run it’s course.

Hopefully, down the line, when you meet someone else, this whole situation will be seen as the positive catalyst that propelled you down to the next thing (or person).

Best of luck, you did well.