What's the worst thing that can happen to a girl who falls in love with her therapist?

Maybe he’s married and hates his wife, so he murders her and frames the young, naive patient for the crime. Knowing she is innocent, she is unable to convince the judge or jury. The crafty psychologist’s testimony completely fools the jurors. He weepingly tells the court how much he loved his mate and points an accusing finger at his young patient saying she has forever robbed him of that love. And at the tender age of 26, she is executed.

Is that worst enough? :-)

If he’s an ethical therapist, he will be aware of her transference, set boundaries and use it to teach her. If not, of course he could damage her more.

The worst, IF you are dealing with an ethical therapist is that your feelings will be unrequited. This is no big mystery, therapists KNOW and are trained in dealing with their patients transferences. Patients falling in “love” with their therapists happen all the time, you are not unique. Being shown genuine concern and caring often results in patients falling in “love” with their therapists. Don’t get your hopes up, the odds of your therapist acting on any feelings that arise are highly unlikely, would be unethical and don’t kid yourself, their profession is more important than dabbling with a patient, not to mention it would not be in your best interest.

If they feel you cannot contain your attractions they will terminate the sessions and move you on to someone else.
You are NOT in “love” you are just hungry for kindness, validation and understanding and are mistaking your therapists caring for something more.

Why are you saying “you”? @Coloma

@illusionslies Okay…“they” haha
Must have missed the generalized theme, thought you were talking about yourself, are you?

She needs to get a lady therapist. That might help to minimize the possibility of a conflict of interest.

@snowberry The question is not ‘What should she do?’ It’s what is the worst thing that can happen after she already fell in love.

Oh for cryin’ out loud….the WORST thing that can happen is that her pseudo, needy, “love” will not be reciprocated. Think I already said that above Jesus fucking christ…really?

Not only are all scrupulous and well-trained therapists aware of transference, but they are also trained to deal with counter-transference. That is when the therapist begins to have sexual fantasies abou his/her patient.

The gender of the therapist does no prevent transference or countertransference.

My male therapist was both mother and father to me during my therapy sessions. it was something we talked about a lot.

@gailcalled Yeah, I remember when I went to therapy years ago, we had to have a conversation about it too. I was much younger and vulnerable at the time, and naturally developed a crush on my gorgeous therapist. Talking helped me move on. I also found out that she was a lesbian, which didn’t really make things easier though :p

@Coloma I think my answer is clearly possible and also a far worse outcome than unrequited love.

Grammar check: Misplaced modifier.

Who is receiving treatment for sexual abuse, the patient or the therapist? Many therapists are also in therapy, after all.

Worst case scenario, the therapist’s wife finds out about the patient’s love for her husband, sets them up, destroys his career, divorce him and take all his money. He becomes depressed, resents the young girl. The man kills himself and the girl. Therapists are paid to show love and care, its their job description.

@idealstar50 Therapists are also trained to set boundaries and they do.

If you are such a very dark artist, why are you asking everyone else to support your premise and give you a story. Don’t ask us, show us.

She would find herself heartbroken after a failed relationship with him, which would possibly drive her to commit suicide.

Her therapy would be hindered.

Maybe the worst case scenario is that therapist is the one who sexually abused the patient when she was young. Of course, they wouldn’t know until later.

See, @illusionslies, you didn’t need suggestions. You might make the situation multidimensional though. Maybe the therapist believes he knows who her parents are, but she has a stepmom, her real mom was his girlfriend in college, and when he finds out, he doesn’t know if she might5 be his daughter.
Has that been done?

She will need to get a new therapist as the current therapist will lose all objectivity when it comes to handling her issues. The patient / therapist relationship is compromised and it will be better to seek alternative therapists.