Am I obligated to give lurve if I like someone's answer to my question?

if you ask a question, and someone answers it to your liking (and helps you answer your question), then yes giving lurve is always reassuring and lets the person know they helped you. you can also just privately thank them if you want to add something. but mostly we just thank people by the lurve we bestow on them. that said, you aren’t obligated to do anything. there won’t be any lurve police after you.

There are many who do not lurve at all. I feel that if someone has made a good faith effort to answer my question, and the answer is not snippy, irrelevant dogma or incomprehensible crap, I owe them lurve for their time.

I’m actually really strict with how I give it out on questions I ask. I normally just give it the the person that actually helped answer my question.

I’m like a drunken sailor on other peoples questions. I’ll lurve any answer that walks.

@jp: This is why I would like to see you get 10 points instead of 5 if its a GA from the asker.

@richardhenry
I absolutely agree. And that was what was cool about the red links. It was a great idea. I just with it would have been a little bit more subtle.

@jp: The star should turn gold. That’s a better option.

@richardhenry
That would work too.

i always feel kind of…left out, when i make a nice answer and i don’t get any lurve for it, i even feel kind of upset… damn new kids…

I give lurve quite freely, but I do tend to give it more for other’s questions. However, I notice soo many people don’t give any lurve when people answer their questions. Lurve for all of you. Or will you feel patronized?

@iwamotto: it ain’t the “damn new kids”…I’m new and show the lurve to all who make me laugh, cry or think. You’re gettin’ plenty of lurve. I do notice (again…I have pointed this out before) lurve being given for stupid answers from people who are “friends”...darn oldies/factions/cliques! I give lurve for good questions and good answers…period.

I give it when the Q or A is good, and I get it when my Q or A is good, I think. I like to keep it simple.

I’d like to plead with the fluther gods yet again. Can we please do away with lurve please. It has been the subject of much fluthstration today.

No. I find the whole point system useless now. If i really like someones answer, I send them a comment thanking them

To answer the question, I don’t think one should feel obligated. Look, I understand the point of lurve. I have fallen victim to it like we all have to a point. But when it comes to how i dole it out, I prefer to give it to newer jellies so they feel the same “high” we all first felt. Like if someone has like 34 lurve and they give a thoughtful, well worded answer, I’ll GA them. Then I’ll send a PM to them telling how much I appreciated their thoughtful response, and welcoming them to the collective.
I’m less likely to GA someone with high lurve who acounts for 6 of the 8 responses to a question that’s 30 minutes old. (No matter how good the answer is)

what i can’t stand is how i’ll ask a question that gets a ton of responses but gets no GQ… it’s like, why are you all sitting around answering this if it wasn’t a good question? so far over ten people have answered this question, which means over ten people thought it was worth answering, but right now it only has one GQ star….

@jacksonrice – you misunderstand the use of GQ. putting in effort and hard work to help answer someone else’s query is a good reason to be happy about a GA if you get it. expecting OTHERS to give you a GQ after answering your question (for free) and helping you out is completely different. the answerer doesn’t owe the questioner anything since they are the ones doing the questioner a favor.

@ pnl—gotcha. you’re right; i misunderstood.