Why would a girl want to have sex with the guy who raped her years ago?

Not cool.

Dude.

I can’t imagine why she would.

Perhaps, if this is something you’re including in this story you’re writing, you should tell us why. Are you crowdsourcing your novel?

@Seek_Kolinahr I heard that my childhood friend is dating the guy who sexually abused her long long ago. I don’t want to ask her, I haven’t talked to her in 7 years.

May be to take revenge. Seductive Revenge. She was raped when she was just thirteen, she may be planning to take revenge. (whips, chains, gags). Other than this I don’t find any other reason why she would be willing to have sex with him. She’s may also sedate him and castrate him.

Unless one gets into the mind of another person, it’s all just guessing.

Perhaps to gain a sense of control over someone whom, in the past, she had no control.

I would say off the top of my head to gain her feeling of power back. Rape is about power and control but when in a relationship the woman normally controls how often couples have sex because they traditionally have a lower libido dependent on age as well as female cycles etc. Maybe on some level she sees this as a way to confront her fear and gain back what was robbed from her.

I am not a psych person medically trained. As someone who was raped in the past I find this question almost disgusting, I’m not quite sure that is right word maybe abhorrent is better.

Is this a ‘what if’, or did it actually occur? If it is merely a line of speculation, I would encourage you to lighten up.

I simply cannot imagine that happening.

You could ask her.

Ditto @Unbroken and @filmfann

In my case, I got pregnant by my rapist. I had to work very hard to not hate him, because I could easily see elements of him in my son. Also, because I was a young, single teen mom, I fantasized about our lives being different and us all being one big happy family. I have also let my son meet the guy a couple of times and to do so I had to pretend to myself that I had never been raped. That kind of mental tricks/lying to oneself eventually comes back to bite you… at least it did for me. Finally, I was a virgin when I was raped and I still fantasize about having a different first sexual encounter.

Sex brings things out in people that are not always able to be well verbalized. I feel like I can understand the mental aerobics that your friend’s situation would require.

I just want to add that rape is a horrifying act, the insidious effects of which can possibly be felt in a family for generations. It is not anyone’s place to judge or question how someone else deals with the aftermath of being raped.

It’s possible that she may not have been raped at all by him. I don’t know the story but maybe, it’s possible.

Yes, women can lie about rape. I’ve known of a couple liars myself.

For me, it depends on the woman and what I know about them. If they have a history of lying, exaggeration, and being “history revisionists” with their own pasts, then when these sorts of women claim rape, I actually usually don’t believe them unless I see/hear of some evidence.

It’s generally good not take stories at face value.

Also, I have a family member who was raped when she was a girl by two adult men who brutally hurt her to the point of her actually getting sick on one of them. I have heard the entire story from her. She can’t talk about it without getting weepy and feeling sick. It took her years to tell her husband and she really hasn’t been able to have sex since then.

Sexually, the rape has really hurt her.

This is why I’m skeptical of women who claim rape and then go off to date, have sex with, and marry the rapists.

What actually happened between them? You have both rape and sexual assault mentioned.

For me personally, there is no way in the world I would ever get together with the guy that raped me when I was a teenager.

I think that you are talking about Stockholm syndrome here, it’s when you have feelings and connection with someone who literally tortures you. Anyway this is not healthy and such people should definitely get over this with the help of psychologists

Lots of women get raped and feel ruined, sexually. It could happen that a girl feels she is no longer good enough for anybody but the guy who ruined her. Or, to stay out of trouble with her parents when she got caught or almost caught, she called it rape.
Stockholm syndrom is with captors, but victims of rape can end up feeling they “Belong” to the rapist, because his aggression was a kind of strength, however bad, and if a woman wants a strong person in their life badly enough…

When she was raped, what did she look like physically? That would give me some inking on how I would answer the question.

I am so sorry I clicked back on this question. I have no more words…