Why is he frustrated?

To me, he’s saying I like you, I want to get to know you beter, so give me a chance to be a friend and see how it develops. If he didn’t care at all, I’m not sure he would have asked your intentions. Only you know if that sounds like something you’d be interested in.

I think he was not paying attention to what you want, and his frustration is he wasn’t getting his way.

So the big question for him is, “Do you intend that we have sex when you are around, but otherwise chill? That’s what a “F” buddy is”. If you can, you and he need to have an in-depth conversation on what the implications are of you having sex with him and what it means to you.

Sounds to me like you want either a more involved relationship, despite distance, or else friendship without sex. You get to set your boundaries, and he doesn’t get to overrule it even if it’s frustrating to him.

Randomly? Some guy on the street approached you and asked to have some kind of intentions toward him? “Random” would be like that: some guy walking through the supermarket blindfolded until he ran into you and asked these types of questions.

I’m getting the sense – the strong sense – that this is not exactly “random”.

Can you give a better description of what is really happening here, with words whose meanings we can both understand and agree upon, and which will give us a better sense of what it is that you’re saying here?

I think he didn’t want to commit to it being a non committal “fuck buddy” relationship. He wanted you to say yes to seeing him and he wanted to see where it lead without any extraneous labels. He prolly doesn’t believe a long distance relationship is impossible.

It can be frustrating to hear that your interest has no hope of it working out and that they would agree only to either nothing or a fuck buddy.

Have you actually been talking to this guy on the phne rather than just texting/emailing?

We have been talking since around june… and we text everyday and talk on the phone everyday ( well not anymore since this happened 5days ago..) @Coloma

loll well no he’s not random, ive been talking to him for some time now.. i wrote randomly because he asked me out of nowhere on the phone while I was at work… @CWOTUS

We had a long conversation on the phone and I couldn’t find the words to say what i felt and at some point i just sigh and he said : ” Yea so you can only imagine how I’ve been feeling since” and I could feel the emotions in mine and his voice. but now he just turned cold and don’t really text me anymore at first I thought it because he was hurt or mad that I think he would only use me for sex but now I’m just thinking he’s just dropped me because I didn’t want to be only physical…. What do you guys think ??

@Mp123 I think he thought you were special and you treated him like he wasn’t, so why would he bother?
If I were you, I’d be texting like “I do think you’re special and that we could have something special. Will you please text/call/message me so we can discuss and I can apologize to you?”