Is your anxiety accurate about predicting disaster?

If we’re talking about medical stuff, my problem is that I have become used to being lied to by medical people. This causes no end of anxiety for me. And because I have inaccurate information a large portion of the time, of course I’m going to freak out, not knowing what the truth is.

If it’s not about medical stuff, I generally have little anxiety. If I have a general idea of what’s coming, I do my best to prepare and then I relax, knowing I have done everything I can within reason.

I’m seldom anxious about it, but I realize that disaster is always just around the corner. And I’m usually right about that, too.

Very rarely is my anxiety about a situation correct. In fact, I’m not sure the last time I was right!

As a side note, if I dream that someone has died, they’re good for at least another year of life. My best friend’s dad kept dying in my dreams. About 18 months before he passed, he stopped dying in my dreams. And that’s not the first time this has happened. Would that be reverse anxiety?

Rarely is my anxiety accurate about predicting disaster.

For one, I tend toward bi-polar, so my anxiety is usually just hormonal, or whatever.

Another is that I’m not hell-bent on predictions. A lot of people bring disaster upon themselves by being so anxious they cause problems. Self fulfilling.

I’m anxious about most performance or change events but they almost always turn out fine.

Nope, when I get nervous it’s usually a waste of emotion. Change and bad news are inevitable, staying calm can help a lot.

When the doctors told my mom she had cancer, we immediately freaked. Then it was “it’s all over you, so you probably have one to three months”, then later “oh well it’s the least aggressive form of cancer so probably 6 mos to a year”, then even later “It’s reacting well to treatment so basically 10+ years”. It’s a cruel thing to have to go through, my poor little mama was almost defeated by the ER doc’s diagnosis.

Lesson learned, keep calm no matter what. (Of course, see temper Q for exceptions- lol)

I only get anxious when I am feeling unprepared or don’t know the audience. Usually, a review of what ever I am going to do is enough to settle me down.

Not at all. I spent three decades of my life eaten up by anxiety, until I finally figured out that nothing ever was as bad as I imagined it to be. Now, even when bad things do happen, I’m better prepared to find solutions and coping strategies without the crippling anxiety.

@KNOWITALL Some doctors have a tendency to project the worst possible outcome, even though the likelihood is maybe .5 %. I learned the hard way with that one, and when I finally figure it out, doctors who pull that crap get fired.