Black tie?

Nope. It’s optional.

You are fine.

And if you get plastered like I get plastered your attire will be the last thing people are talking about the next day.

edit :: avoid video cameras after you start drinking. I still cringe when I see the video of my sisters wedding.

johnpowell- last time I woke up on a porch in my tighties with two urgent questions;

Where am I?

And

Where are my clothes?

Your penis is not a black tie rack. Remember that and you should be OK.

But seriously, your attire sounds fine for the wedding. I think you have things under control.

Johnpowell- thanks, I will take that bit of advice as well.

You will be fine, just make sure that you wear black dress shoes. Most preferred for these occasions is a pair of Oxford shoes. If you have a pair of these in your closet you will be fine for any upcoming formal events, ever!

Black tie optional gives you the option of wearing a tuxedo, but it should clue you into the formality of the event, meaning a dark suit and tie would be your other option. You would find people there in tuxedo’s and people who look like a bad day at the office. Aim in between and you blend in perfectly.

You don’t necessarily need a literally “black” tie, either. In this case, you could just go with something evening conservative like a black suit, dress shoes, white tab-collar buttondown shirt and a darker red or blue tie in a subdued pattern or stripe. What they’re calling for is dress nice, and you have the option of dressing formally (tux). Just FYI, “white tie” is extreme(!) formal, usually minimum of a tux, optionally a long coat with tails and cummerbund.

Woody Allen wears old-fashioned high top sneakers with his tux, FWIW.

(And since you asked, “etiquette.”)

It depends on the crowd, how you would normally dress and how young the couple is.

Your basic outfit covers the bases, but I have to say, high-tops or sneakers with a suit is really, really hot.

“I like to picture my Jesus in a tuxedo t-shirt, ‘cuz it says ‘I want to be formal, but I’m here to party,’ ‘cuz I like to party…”