Will you admit to a time you 'cut your nose off to spite your face'?

Why would I cut of my own nose?

Not since my divorce. lol
My ex was such a drag at Christmas, I’d start weeks ahead asking him to please be enthusiastic about things, shopping for our daughter when she was little, etc. He always ruined every fun occasion by being a baby. He’d become an ass in the stores, walking around all morose and pissy, being his passive aggressive self.

I wouldn’t call it “childish”, but I finally got so fed up with his Bah Humbug attitude I just stopped even trying to include him in anything short of setting the tree up.
He was a total miser, even though we had enough money and couldn’t muster up any true joy for the holidays. Good riddance Mr. Scrooge!

The last 10 years have been a joy for me, doing what I want, having a great time buying for my daughter, having fun get togethers. I can’t believe I suffered his shit for as long as I did. lol

@Coloma Wow. That sounds soo familiar. If you’d just acting in kind like my mom did, you could still be married unhappily ever after!
lol

@ibstubro Was your mom Mrs. Scrooge, or did she just suffer Mr. Scrooge beyond all human endurance? lol
I’m a naturally enthusiastic type, it’s not about money, it IS about enthusiasm, creativity, FUN! Gah, I hate the walking dead. haha

Oh, no, @Coloma. They seemed to be very happily unhappily married. You know, sort of a mental S&M.

Years ago, someone told me that if I’m doing something “for the principle of it,” that’s a good time to reconsider my intentions and actions. I think this is good advice.

Yes, some principles stand on their own merits and are worthy of upholding. So often, however, the “principle” is nothing more than spite, vengeance, or stubbornness.

Okay, now that I’ve pontificated with such faux wisdom… :-)

I’m a lifelong, devoted baseball fan, and my team’s the Boston Red Sox. I’m also a purist of the game, and I object strongly to interleague play (i.e. fake games). I go to about 25 MLB games per season, but I boycott all interleague matchups except the World Series. A couple of years ago, the Red Sox were playing Washington Nationals and, yes, I adamantly refused to see any of the games. My brother pointed out that my team had just played a series about 4 miles from my home, and I’d missed out, and hadn’t I taken a principle much too far?

@ibstubro this totally confused me
“Last year at Thanksgiving the S/O contrived to leave me out at Thanksgiving, so I refused to attend Christmas.”

How did she leave you out at Thanksgiving? What, locked you out of the house?
And how did you not attend Christmas? Stay out there?

@Coloma And then he got pissy because you didn’t include him in stuff. Am I right?

I have no family of my own, @anniereborn. We travel 4–5 hours to be with S/O’s family. I didn’t get to go to Thanksgiving, so I refused Christmas.

Nanna, nanna, NA-nah!

@Coloma Is this the same ex-husband who was a controlling tyrant? He probably rebelled against Christmas because you enjoyed it so much. It was your idea, not his, to get enthusiastic about the holidays, so he’d react by being sullen and bratty. If hadn’t made the rules of the game, why should he play along?

Excuse me @Coloma….. Were we married to the same man?

In school my teachers would get hear someone talking, and they never really knew who it was. Several times I was blamed, even though I was always very serious in school, trying to get scholarships and graduate as soon as possible.
A few times I was blamed for the talking, and the teacher would move me. It was never even me.
After that happened I would stop working, and just cause problems. I always knew it was childish, but I hated being moved for something I didn’t do.

Good answer, BTW, @SadieMartinPaul. Perfect example.

Ah, the good ole days, @AshLeigh. Only the best of us are able to outgrow even that pettiness. :)