I don't know how to be mentally healthy after my family problems?

You probably need to keep away from your family of origin for a period of time. Consider seeking therapy to learn new ways of communicating with your mother.

For example, don’t fall into the trap of asking your mother for something to drink. Just get up and look around for something you would find acceptable. (Water?)

Responding by breaking or throwing things is not helpful.

When your mother is saying terrible things to you, say “Mom, please don’t talk to me like that. I will have to leave the room.”

Follow the steps in the following article carefully. They really work.

http://www.wikihow.com/Ignore-People-You-No-Longer-Wish-to-Be-Around

Combining this with your other related question, I am getting the impression that your mother needs therapy as much as, if not more than, you do. I can’t begin to guess what her issues are, but she clearly has something going on.

Meanwhile, you are in a tough position. You are an adult, but as a college student, I am guessing that you are still very dependent on your parents, financially. Learning how to emotionally detach from others is difficult – especially when that is a parent. Try not to take her statements personally – she seems to be projecting her issues onto you. When you get back to school, seek out the counselors on campus for guidance through this.

You are right that introversion is not like other people, and many extroverts just can’t comprehend how we can be happy keeping to ourselves or with just a couple close friends, but that is irrelevant. There have been several really good articles and infographics on the internet recently about introversion… I’ll see what I can track down.

I was miserable when I was your age, and even dropped out of college because of it. Hang in there and stay true to yourself – it gets better.

I’d just straight up just ask your mom why she’s got to be such a bitch all the time.

If this is your mom, can you talk to your dad? Your mom doesn’t sound like she’s mentally well. Can you tell him that? What does he say?

Can you arrange to live somewhere else, such as with another family member?

Here’s an infographic to help extroverts better understand introverts.

This article discusses myths and realities of introversion.

There are a lot of introverts on the internet, so I’m sure you can do your own searches to find information to help you cope and perhaps to help explain your personality to your family. The two above have made the rounds on social media, so I figure that they have resonated with a good number of people.

It could be that your Mom is stressed out and like others mentioned she needs therapy. She is taking her frustrations out on you. This can’t be a healthy environment for you on so many levels. You are a grown up person, you can move in with one of your friends or find another place. Don’t worry everything will be fine. As long as you have faith that things will get better, they will. Just don’t feed into the negativity. Keep yourselves occupied by indulging in activities that interest you. Don’t be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.

I empathize and have gone through similar things. Based just on what you wrote, your mom doesn’t sound well, which likely doesn’t have anything to do with you. As a result, you have been damaged too, of course, being her daughter.

My solution was forgiveness and moving out. I don’t know what your solution will be but I very much recommend seeing a psychologist to talk it all out. If you’re open (like you say you are), seeing a therapist is especially ideal. You’ll figure a lot of stuff out.

Your situation and view on life and relationships can change for the better if you make an effort. It might be hard to see that right now but it’s true.

(Your mom needs therapy too.)

Being related to toxic people is hard. Trust issues will probably follow to your other relationships. Get away quick.

When placed in a situation where people are abusive, the best remedy is to leave the area immediately. Put on clothes and walk out the door. No one should have to suffer that kind of verbal abuse, even if it IS your mother. It sounds like she has issues that have nothing to do with you. If possible, remove yourself from her company as soon as the abuse begins and make her understand that you will not tolerate it, but will leave again if she becomes abusive. I would encourage her to seek therapy and possibly medication for her own well-being as well as those who have to be around her. That much anger is a serious health risk, but it is treatable. You need to look out for yourself first and foremost. Your mom will likely continue to treat you poorly for just as long as you tolerate it. Put a stop to it now.

@trinitymat Are you in a culture where, if you can support yourself, you’re able to move away from your family? Or do they have total control over you until you marry?

Just keep in mind that this time will go away and happy moments will come back.