@LornaLove I think the folks who are referring to the people who are asking the “beat a dead horse” Q’s are referring to the same person who asks essentially the same Q with slightly different wording, as opposed to multiple people asking similar Q’s for different reasons.
Example:
Q1: What should I do about my boyfriend? He sometimes verbally abuses me and hits me, but not very often? I really love him and he’s the only person who has ever understood me. We’re best friends.
Q2: Have you ever been so in love with someone that you couldn’t walk away from them? Details: sometimes he’s hit me a few times and calls me names, but I’m OK with that part, because I do things that make him mad too. Like last night, I was supposed to have dinner ready at 6 and I had to work late, so I didn’t even get home until 6:15 and he was really upset, but I don’t blame him because he was so hungry.
Q3: I’ve been dating this wonderful man, my best friend, for the past 6 years, sometimes I feel like I’m not good enough for him and because of this he sometimes gets angry. He’s only hit me once and sometimes he yells at me and calls me names, but I think I probably deserve it, because I was being annoying and bothering him, plus I’m really jealous. That’s something I’ve been working on.
Q4: This guy that I’ve been dating, that I love with all my heart is ignoring me. I looked at his computer and saw that he had a tab opened to some really ugly pornography. I know I shouldn’t have looked, but I did and he’s apparently been looking at it for many years now and has thousands of pictures of nude women and porn videos saved. When I confronted him about it, he got really mad. He accidentally knocked me down, actually I think I tripped, but I shouldn’t have been looking at his private business. What should I do?
Q5: So I promised my boyfriend, who I would die for, because he’s so smart and talented and he makes a really good living, that I wouldn’t snoop. But I was so jealous that I couldn’t help myself. I’m not worth the dirt on his shoes and I still can’t believe how lucky I am to be with him. Without him I would probably kill myself. I snooped and now he’s been asking if I looked at his computer. I said no, but I’m afraid that if he finds out that he might break up with me. He’s really a good guy and has only hit me once, but I deserved it, because I was checking his Facebook account and I got really jealous, because he was talking to his ex-girlfriend, who is a total bitch. I want to trust him, because I love him so much, but he has all of this porn saved on his computer and it makes me want to die. What should I do?