Why do guys always harass me?

It might be a good time to talk to the teacher or a guidance councilor. I doubt you are alone and hopefully others have stepped forward.

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I totally understand if you are scared about being labeled as a “narc”. But if you pass along those concerns hopefully others can keep your identity a secret.

Don’t go looking too hard for a “why”. Reasons don’t play a very big role in the typical adolescent male brain. They’re more about asserting social dominance. That’s often not a pretty process. It actually has nothing to do with you; you’ve just gotten caught in the hormonal crossfire. If it’s any comfort, they’ll probably be mortified when they think back on this years from now.

How do you react when being harassed? Do you cry and show upset which would be very natural but may provoke more attention? Maybe you can learn some flippant or sharp retorts that will show dominance, Is it primarily sexual harassment or plain old bullying – not to say that sexual harassment isn’t bullying. If the problem is really unmanageable, maybe there is an all-girls high school in your area. Are your parents aware and supportive? Consider talking to a counselor or better yet a therapist and see if you can identify some strategies to help yourself cope better. Turn to us for support too; this can be a very caring site. I feel for you.

Maybe your hot & it’s a backhanded compliment? Hard to tell without specifics.

Are you annoying?

Welcome to Fluther.

For starters, you’re “the new kid” in school, so this kind of thing is going to happen from time to time. As others have said, part of it is a natural animal desire to establish a pecking order, to see where you fit in. If you cave, cry, get upset or otherwise show them that “they’ve won” when they pick on you in this way, then they know “we’re still on top”. Again, as others may have mentioned, but which can’t be stressed too much “it’s not about you”. That is, don’t take it so personally that they have it in “for you”. As you already know, they don’t even know you!

Other than that, if you look particularly good (or bad, unfortunately; we need to face facts) to them, then that’s going to fuel their desire to assert dominance.

If you can lessen your own emotional response to their comments, then even if it doesn’t cause them to stop making them, at least it will take some of the sting out.

But really, welcome to Fluther. We’re not like that at all. Sometimes we’re worse, actually. But I’ll be nice. Promise.

Being attractive myself, I understand completely. Guys are mean because they know they will never get you and that frustrates them. Other girls will be jealous and guys will be pigs. Such is the plight of my (good looking) people. Just realize that you won’t be in High School forever and you can get through this. Just be yourself and try to help out the less fortunate along the way. I know it’s hard, we’ve all been through it. It’s almost like a rite of passage into adulthood. Some handle it better than others. Only worry about the opinions of people who respect you.

@Username123 I too would like to welcome you to Fluther. Sounds like you probably have a great body and a pretty poor Student Body. Don’t take it to heart. Being a Neanderthal is part of being a teenage boy. The main strategy to end it is to shrug it off, realizing it’s the guys thinking with their little head that’s the problem, and not you. Believe me, stupid student bodies don’t last forever and beautiful bodies don’t either. When both are gone, you may look back and see this irritation in a very different perspective. I wish you the best in finding how to fit in to the new school. I remember it isn’t easy.