What is your opinion about remorse?

I use remorse like I use education and knowledge. If I do something and it hurts someone, I’ll feel remorse, but I use it to teach me not to hurt that person again. I don’t let remorse overwhelm me, but I do think it has it’s place in our human teachings.

Remorse is a crucial human emotion and one of life’s great teachers. Feeling true remorse teaches us to not repeat often selfish, mean and or stupid moves. But it has to be genuine.

Also,I have often seen remorse expressed when someone gets caught doing something the know damn well they shouldn’t be doing often followed through with crocodile tears of remorse.

@Cruiser Yes, if it’s not genuine it’s just so much bullshit.

I feel remorse after enough time has passed for the event to have settled. It feels like shame to me. Fortunately, I tend to apologize to people I have hurt, even if it’s months later. I feel like I apologize a lot. I apologize more than I think ahead.

Remorse, having a conscience, is what makes people decent people. Without it they are sociopaths. There are situations where one person might have remorse and the other doesn’t and that’s ok, there are two sides to eveything and in every situation each individual has their own perception. But, if a person never has remorse, is simply void of that emotion, it is seen as pathological and antisocial.

I agree with @JLeslie but I also think we should go easy on ourselves and others short of extremely callous fuck ups that anyone should know better than to perpetrate.
Forgiveness is important too.

I cannot have a strong opinion about that which I do not possess.

Gifted:

It can serve as a course correcting mechanism in one’s life.

Did you know that when a sail boat or any kind of ship on the ocean is underway, most of the time it is off course to one degree or another? That’s what rudders are for. Ships are constantly course correcting to compensate for prevailing winds, wave patterns etc.

Remorse and other “negative” human emotions are designed to serve a positive function, to keep us on a course towards what we feel is right and best.

“Guilt is a useless emotion.”

-Former girlfriend.

Maybe if you’re a psychopath it is.

Not suggesting your ex was…but, I have to wonder.

She wasn’t.

But I was the socio path.