Do I cash the check?

If I were your friend, I’d say cash it, for your inconvenience and/ or to teach her a lesson about repercussions.

If I were your girl, I’d think that giving it back to me with a kiss & wink would be very sweet.

Can I ask if her arrest was a total misunderstanding….why did she have to post bail?

I know I’d cash it if it was my boyfriend (I’d say my husband, but you can’t deposit a check written from the same account – and if it were my husband, he’d also get an earful). I’m not sure about this whole “total misunderstanding” thing, but I’ll take your word for it I suppose. I think she should pay it back since it was her that ended up in jail, “misunderstanding” or not. Just because you can afford it doesn’t mean you should pay for it.

@Cruiser I just asked my friend who’s dad’s in law enforcement, and he said that bail is usuallly just set to get you out of jail until your hearing. So it’s not necessarily a guilty plea or anything like that.

@KNOWITALL is correct. You have to post bail whether you’re guilty or not. They don’t determine guilt until you go to court. The judge could let the person go without having to pay anything – a PR bond, for example – but that doesn’t mean the person isn’t guilty either.

Take the check, cash it, donate the money in her name, send her the receipt.

Cash it. When we posted bail for a friend of ours, the country kept 3% as a “processing fee” when they gave the money back. You might see some ripoff fees, too.

I would suggest you hold on to it for a couple weeks so that she notices it is not showing up on her bank statement. Then let her ask you about it. That way you’ll know what she’s thinking and can then decide the right thing to do with it.

Not cashing checks can totally fuck people over. You might decide to cash it six months down the road when they don’t have the money to cover it.

This happened to my friend. He lived with his dad and paid rent monthly. Obviously not the best at balancing his checkbook. But his dad sat on a year of rent checks and deposited them a few weeks before my friend was going to Europe for three months. Boom.. 4K suddenly vanishes right before he is due to leave. Luckily the dad loaned him the money he thought he had.

I’m not telling Tachys to hold the check for six months and then cash it. I’m saying, let his girlfriend make the choice.

That’s entirely different.

You should read other’s posts a little more carefully before you make accusations.