Stupid question: Can anyone explain these contradictions (details inside)
I’m fond of mystery/crime stories. Yeah, those stories involving crime, murders and detectives. There are, of course, fights and blood in those stories. The darker the plot is the better. But in real life I’m not at all violent. Most consider me as gentle, jolly and tolerant. I’ve never used violence on anyone that’s the reason why I have to hide my “mobid” interest from many.
One of my friends really love romance, especially teen romance and romance comedy. Those stories only revolve around love and relationship between couples, always hilarious and romantic, and always end happily. No violence here. But she’s quite bad-tempered in real life. She gets angry easily and is very impatient. There’s nothing in her that is like the characters in the romance stories she read.
She once tried to talk me out of my interest, saying that it would affect my personality greatly and would turn me into a violent person. But so far our above-mentioned personalities haven’t changed.
Can anyone explain these contradictions?
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It’s not a contradiction, it’s an alternative reality. Books are often a way to escape or to explore other ways of living or other choices.
No one (that I know of) is really a wizard fighting the dark forces of an evil powerful wizard while going to wizard school, but so many love reading Harry Potter. It’s because we can let our imaginations fly into a different world with different rules.
@zenvelo It’s not a contradiction, it’s an alternative reality. Books are often a way to escape or to explore other ways of living or other choices.
Then why did she want me to give up my interest?
What you like to read has nothing to do with your personality.
@marinelife Ask again: Then why did she want me to give up my interest?
@Mimishu1995 She’s controlling? Jungian analyst Marian Woodman feels that what we take in (especially images like movie and TV) does very much affect us. It is why I gave up my reading of true crime and stopped watching violent movies.
@Mimishu1995 It has nothing to do with what you read, it has everything to do with her. She doesn’t sound like much a friend, more like an acquaintance.
Why hang out with someone who is ”...quite bad-tempered in real life. She gets angry easily and is very impatient.” ?? And don;t worry about what she thinks, she doesn’t care at all what you think.
Maybe you’ve found a healthy outlet for your negative feelings. Or maybe you just find some thrill in the suspense. I don’t really buy that artistic expression leads to violence.
Romance novels are full of S-E-X. Unspeakable, unlike violence, I know, but that’s usually why people read them. Maybe she is projecting her desires to act out sexually onto you, and sublimating the sex into violence!
Well, I doubt she sees herself as angry, impatient and bad-tempered. She seems controlling, you shouldn’t let that get to you.
@ragingloli wasn’t trolling – s/he was simply answering your question…
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