What are the chances of a teenage boy like this turning into an abuser?

Well; I can safely say that the last one is not abusing anyone.

Hopefully the last two got the crap totally beat out of them by real men who saw them do shit like that to someone else… And haven’t done it since.

All I know is male or female…people I have met, dated, etc. who have been abused emotionally or physically are emotionally different from the people I have met, dated who were not similarly abused. What is more depressing to me is just how many people have been abused.

Abusers I knew would never do it in front of others so yeah, yours sound similar in that way.

the Fluther answer
Oh, this is a bout bashing men because you had some bad dates huh? Just because they were bad to you, that doesn’t make them abusers.

The real, actual answer
Usually when people end up being rude, disrespectful, mean and nasty to other people they are broken people themselves. Be it some self-loathing, feeling of inferiority because maybe they were bullied so when they find someone they can put under them, they do it to feel more elevated status wise. I would not say they will of have continued in that behavior, hopefully they had parents that steered them in better directions; however unlikely since they are as old as they were and acted that way.

@Hypocrisy_Central I mostly agree with you except I would emphasize that children are more often a mirror image of their parents. IMHO if kids are mean and abusive usually tells me one or more parent is mean and abusive and toward that child.

@Cruiser I mostly agree with you except I would emphasize that children are more often a mirror image of their parents.
I could have gone there but someone would accuse me of judging people or exerting some superior moral authority. There is no escaping the fact that in some cases if the fruit is bad the tree was usually bad 1st, of if the branch was bad, it was not pruned before the rot took hold.

Yes, but what if one parent was kind and gentle and the other a monster and one of the kids turns out to be a felon? Then what would you say about what caused the rest of the kids to turn out moral and kind?

Telling someone to shut up doesn’t make them an abuser. Without context, I’ll just be optimistic and suggest he was frustrated and upset and verbally lashed out. Sure, abusers do that, but so do lots of normal, compassionate people, especially when they’re so young.

A sixteen year old who plays a nasty prank? Without context, I’ll be optimistic and suggest he was callous, opportunistic, and not really in touch with how you were feeling. Sure, abusers do that, but so do sixteen year olds.

The slap sounds like the result a childish dare. Dick move, but he’s dead, so it really doesn’t matter. Are we really here to speculate on what one action by a child means about an adult that doesn’t exist?

Kids can be cruel, but single acts (mostly) do not define people. None of these acts in and of themselves gives anyone enough information to label any of them as adult abusers.