I’ve tried, but simply can’t get into motivational speaking and other self-help propaganda. Despite being open to the concept of ghosts, an afterlife, mediumship (some of it), esp, etc I’m more on the sceptical end of even those things. I’m very sceptical of self-help, dating experts and many new age ideas though.
First off, this world is already filled with enough egomaniacs and overconfident people, and I’m a much bigger fan of ability over delusions of grandeur. Perhaps it’s my own mindset and motivations, but I’m much more into humility and simplicity over being #1. Maybe I’m too spiritual to be into self-help tactics, I don’t know.
I also figure that I can’t be motivated by words, self-coaching or the advice of others, but rather I can only be motivated to do something if I already know I want to do something. My motivation to do or accomplish something is already more than enough fuel for me to do what I’m interested in doing. As a result my motivation to do something drives me to practice, along with doing what I need to do in order to accomplish my goal/s. Much more important to me than motivational speaking is determining what interests me enough to have a goal to begin with. To me motivation is far more important than confidence and self-esteem, because without it (motivation) the latter two become nothing more than a false state of mind.
Personally I feel most of these self-help and new age gurus are snake oil salesmen. I’m not getting into detail here, but I see their patterns and tactics. I see these people as taking money from desperate people while not giving them anything in return but words that are written or spoken with charisma, but words with points we already have embedded in our minds. Saying things like only you can hinder yourself or your fear is your own worst enemy are things most people are already aware of. I’m not saying that giving someone a little motivational speech when they’re down doesn’t have value, but I only believe this is true when that speaker knows and really cares about you. However, if self-help works for you (not everybody is me), then I guess I can’t complain about those who find it useful.
@Khajuria9 I actually agree with you about The Secret. Positive thinking can defintely help people reach their goals more effectively, but the proponents of this really believe that wishing for something will really make it appear or disappear from your life. I also find it to be selfish, because it proposes isolating certain people from our lives that might need a helping hand, and I don’t care for its victim blaming. The Secret is a bit too hedonistic and selfish for anyone that’s truly spiritual in nature. The year that book became the top seller didn’t we have a major housing crisis?