Being Demisexual. What Is It?

Oddly enough it has nothing to do with Aston Coocher.

It refers to someone who doesn’t lust after, or feel sexual attraction towards someone they don’t have a strong emotional connection with.

It’s what happens after the metrosexual meme mutates and evolves.

@filmfann is correct. I consider myself to be one, but only recently labelled myself as one, because I’d never heard of the term until well into adulthood. That said, I absolutely identify with the definition of the term and it’s how I’ve been my entire life.

I would say that, yes, it can absolutely have bearing on your life and relationships. Growing up, I never understood why people made such a big deal about the fact that I wouldn’t sleep with people until an emotional attachment/connection had been made. I used to get mad at people for asking me what I considered to be stupid questions. “So… why don’t you sleep with people? I don’t get it”. At the time, all I knew how to counter with was, “I don’t know. Why do you?! I’m just not into meaningless sex.” No one got it, and until very, very recently, I didn’t realize how much of a minority I was when it came to sex. It can also determine how many people are willing to date you, because if you don’t put out by a “reasonable” (by most of society’s definition) amount of time, a lot of people aren’t willing to give you much of a chance.

People also confuse making the choice to wait to engage in sex before marriage with someone who identifies as being demisexual. The difference in that case is that A) those who wait for marriage are making the choice – usually for personal moral or religious reasons, and B) most people who wait for marriage are still able to feel sexually attracted to someone without the need for an emotional connection. For a demisexual, the desire is simply non-existent until a genuine emotional connection has been established.

Thanks @filmfann and @DrasticDreamer really helped.

There are varying degrees of demisexuality. Then there is sapiosexuality. Which is selective sexual attraction based solely on intelligence.

Wow…have I learned something new and interesting here. haha
I guess I’m in the sapiosexuality camp these days, now that I a mature woman.
I have zero attraction to anyone based solely on physical excitement.. The brain has to be bigger than the beef. Most often it’s the other way around. lol

Hear hear @Coloma.. though I don’t mind a bit of both worlds

@Unbroken Haha, yeah the best of both worlds is optimum, a brain that isn’t totally Baoloney and a beef stick bigger than a cocktail weenie. lolol

Then there’s the combo of demisexuality and sapiosexuality – which I think I am. People are fascinating creatures! Also, asexuals in all of their variety. Interesting stuff, for sure! :)

@Coloma you mean a cocktail weenie is not 8 inches? Gasp…

There are different varieties of asexuals @DrasticDreamer?

@Unbroken Yeah, for sure! I recommend (A)sexual the documentary, if you have Netflix. I also suggest taking a look at a very informative website that was originally created for the asexual community, but has since broadened their horizons, at asexuality.org It’s a really interesting, educational and welcoming place.

Sooo…what do we call the poop and pee fetish crowd? Fecalsexual?

@Coloma No, because fetishes aren’t sexual orientations/identities. They’re just fetishes. :P

@Coloma unhygenic. @DrasticDreamer I took a peek at the site looks nice I’ll have to check it out more later.

@DrasticDreamer Got’xha, but I think it’s fun to make up names anyway. lol