I feel so alone. What do I do?

Ask him about himself. Or a common topic.

“I’m just worried since he is such a shy person he won’t ever text me or ask me to do anything with him. ”

Rejection is scary. Maybe you need to be the one that is afraid instead of him.

Really, I love when I am being chased. But I like strong woman.

How long has it been since the movie night?
A week or so is no big deal, but yes, you might have to take the bull by the horns and just be bold enough to keep asking him/inviting him to do things. Hopefully after some more time goes by he will feel more comfortable reciprocating invites to hang out.
Is there a movie at the theater you think he’s like too?

Text him or call and ask him if he wants to go see a movie with you next week.
Two shy people might never get anywhere if one of them doesn’t take charge. Be bold kiddo!
If you make several more overtures and he still is not making return gestures then maybe you’ll have to move on, but don’t give up yet.

My daughters boyfriend a few years ago took forever to warm up, but once he did after about 6 months of them dating he really came into his own.

I would suggest that you talk to the boy. Not at all the way you have written this question – leave all of the emotion and insecurity and loneliness and “what if” and “maybe this” and “perhaps that” out of it – just tell him straight up and simply what you want from him right now. Something along the lines of “I don’t want a boyfriend right now, but I would like a friend and I like you [okay, so there’s a little emotion and subjectivity], so would you like to hang out once in a while on a non-romantic basis this summer?” If you feel him wavering, then it would be okay to add “I could really use a friend.”

Think about all of the things that you’d like to pour out to him… and then say about 5% of that or less. You may have to practice to be able to cut it down that much. (Really. I’m serious.) If he likes you, as he seems to, then he may appreciate being able to be “just friends” with no pressure, and a lot less emoting, too.

I’m not saying that you should never bring up any of those things; by no means am I saying that. Just don’t lead with all of that.

“Hey, want to get some ice cream and watch a movie? Your turn to pick the flick,” would be a good start.

You worry to much, you’ll be fine… That’s all I’ve got. Huh…

Do you guys have any interests in common? Because then you can keep the conversation going by talking to him about that.

For instance, if you were both into science fiction, you could tell him about a book you just read or a movie you think he’d be interested in. Stuff like that doesn’t have to be long- actually, it’s better if it’s short! Text him now and then in a way that’s fun and conversational. Then it will feel less weird to ask each other to hang out.

Likewise, if you meet someone and you get along, don’t be afraid to ask them to hang out. Again, keep it fun. Like, “you’re really cool, we should get together sometime!” The only way to become deeper friends with someone is by getting through the awkward getting to know you phase.

It would be best to get used to it, like I have, like I did when I turned 23. You may always be alone and never get married or anything like that, so it’s best to accept it. If something better comes along at some point, great! I think lots of people have problems like yours and who would be better off if they followed my advice to you. Good luck!

I was hoping that one thing would have led to another and that the guy would have asked you out. Apparently, he really is a bit shy, since the two of you seem to get along so well together. You need to gather up your courage and take the first step. You have to make it seem very casual and spur of the moment.

One thing that I am confused about. You say that he works at your church, but that you have not seen him in a while. Isn’t there some way that the two of you could be in the church at the same time?

In addition to the great advice here, I suggest you get involved in some activity that interests you over the summer. You shouldn’t put all your energy into a boy.