Which one should I choose?
Hi!
Recently, I really liked this girl. Over 5 months I tried to get closer to her. I have told her I liked her just 2 weeks ago. I thought she liked me and she said that she used to really like me and now she likes someone else. She said that she still really likes me and if we don’t have a relationship now, doesn’t mean that we won’t later in life. Even after school. We are in Year 10 in school, so we are both 15. She is the first person I really liked. However, there is this other girl that really likes me. At least from what she has told my best friend. My question is which one should I choose? I really do like the first girl, but I feel like the second girl really deserves a chance. She is new to relationships so it would just be an experience for her. The thing is I am scared that if I choose the second girl over the first one then if the first one finds out that I don’t like her anymore, I don’t know how she might react. She might be annoyed at me and then I feel like I would lose the second one in the process. However, I feel that I do slightly like the second girl and I really want to give her a chance (not a relationship but just to get to know each other). Which one should I choose? Should I choose using my heart or brain? I know the first one I could lose way easier. It’s difficult. Please help.
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I think at this point, you should just remain friends with both of the girls. Don’t rush into any relationships or dating situations. Just be friends with both of them for now.
I agree with @Kardamom. You don’t need to choose. Be friends with each and you may be friends with both of them for a long time. Choose one or the other and most likely you will not be friends with either by the middle of the summer.
Oh, God. Just pick the nice one. The nice one is fine. Or the other one. She’s fine, too. It really doesn’t matter. Really. Your mother probably doesn’t care whom you pick as long as it wears a dress. JUST PICK ONE, GODDAMMIT!
I’m always irritated when these questions pop up in my “questions for you” box. I do know that teen years are a really tough time, and negotiating that hormone littered mine field can be absolutely agonizing. Unusual this time that a boy is asking this question. we aren’t usually known for introspection, nor bearing our souls. My advice kid is to follow your heart. If you try to follow your brain and give # 2 a fair chance, your heart or your “equipment” will only betray your brain along with your unfortunate second choice. Let your heart drag you around. You don’t really have a choice.
Here’s the way it works @tomironi123 If you snooze you lose.
You should have told her you liked her 5 months ago, back when she used to really like you.
Don’t hold off asking girl #2 because girl #1 is out of your picture. As she said, ”...now she likes someone else.”
A few thoughts: You’re 15. You are also new to relationships. Giving the second girl a shot would be an experience for both of you.
Teenage girls are strange. My bet is that if you give #2 a shot then #1 will all of a sudden lust after you. It makes no sense, but being wanted is a big ego booster. If #1 thinks you don’t want her she’ll work to turn that around. Don’t fall for that crap and play with #2’s emotions.
Finally, the odds of you marrying either is slim to none. Why not date anyone that seems halfway interesting and have fun doing it?
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