Men have man caves to be left alone, what do women have?

lairs.
as in, witch’s lairs

Shopping

The rest of the house.

Frankly, the whole “man cave” thing comes from the stereotype that men are too stupid and/or women are too controlling to ever let the male have any say in how to furnish or decorate their house/apartment — so all he gets, as a consolation prize, it this one space where he can watch his sports, drink his beer, and scratch his nuts.

This, like most typical male/female stereotypes are foreign to me. Hell, I built my kitchen and chose the curtains.

Sewing rooms.

seriously. that’s what my mom had

I get to stay home all day, while Paul’s at work, so I guess that the entire house and garden are my lady-cave.

PMT?

I’m with @GloPro this one. Shopping!

Virginia Woolf called it A Room of One’s Own.

The bathtub, a migraine, a book, gardening, no kids, a job, a toilet, their car, a hobby.

Women invented the man cave to get much wanted space, peace and quiet from ESPN programing.

The bathroom.

The kitchen, usually. It’s been my experience that women tend to hang out in the kitchen whether they cook or not. If you have a hobby, it’s generally the best place to work on it, with food, drink and clean-up at your fingertips.

The rest of the house. @cookieman wrote it before me.

My husband has a man cave. He is going to put his awards he has won in there, some of his racing photos, his model cars, and a big TV. Also, he keeps the files he deals with stored in there (as opposed to the office I have set up in another room) and he can do whatever the hell else he wants to do in there.

Our house is not decorated without his influence though. We choose everything together. I tend to have a more masculine and minimal taste myself, so it’s not like the house is feminine except for that one cave room. My office, which is my cave I guess, is where I can have piles of crap I have not dealt with yet and he can’t really say anything. Not hoarder level, but my office is never neat as a pin. I guess my office is my junk room. I’d rather our house have a man cave room have a formal living room no one uses. That’s what we opted for in this new house we are building.

Girls’ Night Out.

When it comes to the nest, the man cave is usually the only room in which the poor guy holds any sway, and my wife will encroach on that at the slightest sign of relaxed vigilance. Even the garage where I am now hiding is ruthlessly patrolled for violations of repressive ordinances and regulations. And it’s the same for every married man I’ve come across with one exception. The rest of us marvel at his exceptional fortune in finding his extraordinary mate who allows him to hang up pictures, signs, model airplanes, etc wherever and however he chooses. We NEVER comment to our own wives on this situation for fear that they would immediately put our friend’s spouse into “emergency training”, and put an end to our revelry at his place. For some reason, they’re baffled at why all the guys ALWAYS want to hold ALL of the events at the one house that is in effect a 9 room man cave. To all of the fellas reading this, imagine a dining room with walls covered with working neon beer signs. It’s enough to leave you weeping with envy.

So this is pretty much validating that men are worthless unless they are spilling seed into a frizzer.

I am happy to say that I will not argue with my husband if he wants to hang a Green Bay Packers poster in the house or go hang with the fellas at the Testical Festival. (There really is a Testical Festival tonight and the guys tried to get my husband to go, but he wanted to watch a Doctor Who marathon with our daughter since she’s leaving for camp tomorrow. He chose our daughter. I love that man.)

*testicle

@jonsblond deep down, most any dad would rather watch Barney with their daughter than to miss that time with her over raucous man cave viewing nonsense. Jon sounds like a great dad!

@stanleybmanly LOL. GA. I wonder how my husband feels in our houses.

Do you think you can get a good indicator by how the guy lived before marriage? My husband never had mancave stuff up all over the house, even when we were dating and he lived in his own place. Our last house probably had the most up in “public” rooms. Some matchbox cars above the mantle in the family room, and some race related things. You make me realize with this new mancave he might put all his stuff in the new mancave, because it was so planned out with multiple shelves for displaying things and wall space for photos. I don’t want him to go to that extreme. I want his race photos here and there around the house.

In this new house he also is getting super big garages, and honestly, I really think he cares more about the garages than any part of the house. That’s his choice.

What town is the Testicle Festival in, @jonsblond? We’re not far apart and there is a famous one near here. Mt. Sterling, or Rushville it seems?

Coincidently, I was just at IKEA with my husband and he was looking at shelving for the new house and he was pointing out some shelves that were glass and had lighting and I told him to measure them to see if they would fit the space we have. He was considering the shelves for his little model cars. I had assumed he was considering them for his cave room, but no, come to find out he was thinking in the family room.

@ibstubro Marietta. Not far from the Spoon River

edited to answer Dan. IL

Marietta Ohio? ^^^

I guess The Testicle Festival is a local favorite. @jonsblond

BLECH

@JLeslie “I had assumed he was considering them for his cave room, but no, come to find out he was thinking in the family room.”

Did you ask him to rethink that one? The man cave serves many purposes; among them, it’s a place for a guy to showcase his tchotchkes.

@SadieMartinPaul I’m not too concerned. Once we are unpacking we will figure it all out.