Interesting discussion. I entirely agree about childless people having a different perspective. That’s a fact. I’ll admit, I was taken aback when the person on that blog admitted he didn’t own a dog. Nevertheless…his knowledge trumped that of all the more experienced people.
A few questions I thought of when reading through your responses:
* 1. Wouldn’t you agree that parenting is an experience which must greatly vary from person to person?
@hominid, you said parents often had a “holy sh*t!” moment. I think you may be talking about a certain group of people – thoughtful ones, perhaps you could even call most of them “good” parents. Simply having children won’t do it, in my opinion. All parents are different, all children are different.
* 2. Does having a child automatically qualify one for discussions on parenting?
What if you spent very little time with that child, wouldn’t you then be less qualified than other parents? Is a mother of four more of an authority than a father of two? When does knowledge from parenting books you may have read turn into “wisdom”, to quote @thorninmud? (Example: At age 13, I got a dog, and I was supposed to take care of her on my own. All walks, all feeding, all training. The level of training that dog has is higher than most other dogs I have met. Not all, but maybe 80% or so. Partly, that is due to my dog always having had a very sweet temperament. However, the other part is due to books. I had no experience when I got that puppy. I had simply read a lot of books, and I was lucky enough to read the right ones.)
* 3. How does anyone determine successful parenting methods until the child in question is grown?
May be a separate question.
* 4. How is what we all experienced as children factored in?
We’ve seen a certain parenting style up close, and we know how that style “felt”. That has a place in discussions, doesn’t it?
* 5. Do you think that, in some situations, it is actually beneficial not to have children of your own while discussing the method best applied?
Instinct is not necessarily what works best at all times, in my opinion. My instinct frequently tells me to run around, flapping my arms and yelling at the world – I’m a primate. I never give in to that instinct.
* 6. Can you come up with questions that absolutely couldn’t be answered by childless people?
It’s fine to say, “all of them”, if that is your opinion.
* 7. What are our thoughts on childless people who take care of children?
Thanks, GAs all around.
Sorry to all that are curious, but I don’t want to link to the thread. Some of the participating users are still active now, and things got heated. I don’t want to denunciate anyone. Besides – my question isn’t about that particular thread, or even about parenting. At least, it wasn’t supposed to be ;)