@DAVEJAY100 Read and read and read again all of the responses. You’ve been told that marriage vows are usually made up by the people getting married. There is no gay handbook that they use. Some people use the term spouse, some use the term partner and for some people (in which the couple is female) use the term wife for both people, and for some people (in which the couple is male) use the term husband for both people. It’s very simple to understand, just like other terms in our language like brother, sister, mother, father etc. So your question has been answered. What part of the answer is giving you trouble with your understanding?
You said, you must not fret or be confused that I and most people find the thought of same sex marriages truly bizarre, that is most peoples opinion, that is a fact of life whether you like it or not even though these marriages are miniscule in numbers as opposed to straight marriages.
No one is fretting, we’re just astonished that in this day and age (it is 2014, not 1970) that you think most people find the thought of same sex marriage as truly bizarre. I have no idea where you live, but I’m here in California, we have a huge gay community in our city, and pretty much everybody is fine with gay marriage, except for a very small minority of conservative right wing Christians. Twenty years or even 15 years ago, a lot of people had problems grasping or accepting the idea of same sex marriage, but since so many people, at least in our city, are gay and have been openly gay for years, it’s fairly common place. Once same sex marriage became legal, and straight people got to see it up close and personal, and their own marriages were not affected and the streets didn’t open up and swallow us, nor did any lightning bolts appear, everybody just went about their business. Although the wedding planners did get a big boost in their business, so it’s all good.
Gay marriage works pretty much like straight marriages, for better or worse. Most people, gay or straight simply want to share a life with someone that they love. They might want children, they might not. They might have a marriage made in heaven, or they might bicker a lot. They might have lots of sex, very little sex, or none at all (just like straight people). They get up and go to work, come home and fix dinner, watch a little TV, or maybe they have guests come over for drinks or to watch sports or movies. On the weekends they go to the beach, got to family birthday parties, mow the lawn, go out for dinner and dancing, or even attend church or temple. Pretty much the same as everybody else. It’s neither complicated nor bizarre.