Butterfly like feeling in the body?
So hello everyone out there in the Fluther network! It’s been awhile! Here’s the synopsis: When I tell my girl friend to not “Worry about it.” when something happens (like she does something clumsy, or something small doesn’t work out), she gets butterflies and sometimes goosebumps in her body. She claims that they’re not in her stomach sometimes…But what could this mean? Is it a sense of security that she has with me when I tell her “Don’t worry about it.”? My tone is very calm and casual and it’s reassuring to inform her that it’s not a big deal, and that I’ll handle the small situation. This also applies to other situations that are a bit bigger. So…Any ideas? What does it mean for her, and what does it mean for me? It’s great to be back! I’m still a walking question mark!
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It’s nice to feel safe and secure with your man, as long as it doesn’t make you a drama queen because you get off on the feeling of him making you feel safe and secure. What you describe sounds like an adrenaline rush of sorts, which would make me uncomfortable if I found myself needing your reassurance often.
She may be having a visceral reaction to your statement which is really discounting her feelings.
You are telling her to not trust her feelings, that her feelings are wrong. That is one of the worst things you can say to anyone.
Instead of “handling the small situation” how about recognizing her as an equal and support her handling the situation?
GERD Gastro-Esophageal Reflux Disorder. Get some Zantax or a really good antacid. Lay off the coffee and other high acid foods.
You have to ask her to explian what she means. Butterflies usually means an uneasy, but at the same time excited feeling. It usually is used when someone is anticipating seeing someone they cant believe they get to be with, or while in their presence.
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