(NSFW) How long do you last?

Oh man, in general? I had 4 or 5 answers, but not here. I think most guys last from two to four minutes. I try to go longer. If I cum once, then the second time is going to take a lot longer

As long as it takes.

Most men last longer as they mature. Nothing beats a 40+ guy. Somewhere between premature ejaculation and Viagra. lol

The “reason” is that he is a young man and can hump, dry or otherwise with vigor, like an un-neutered dog. lol
Hmmm….34 women, I bet the odds are he has fathered at least 9 children by now.
He better be humping the work gig, his spawn is being spread far and wide, like the legs of his conquests. haha

Mrs Squeeky’s needs come first then me, so as long as it takes.

As is the case with practically every other interpersonal situation in life, it depends on the individual.

I take mild exception to the wording “last.”

Maybe I decided I want to get this over with while sparing the other’s feelings as much as is reasonable.

Anywhere from a minute to 2 hours :p

Depends on the dude and the day. Should dry humping really last any longer than that? Sounds like some serious chafing.

@Coloma Kids? I’d be more concerned about STDs. Not while dry humping, but certainly before going any further. The guy’s got to have herpes, at least.

Depends how quickly my arse flashes up & down of course, but i’d say on average around 500 or so humps.
Any more & i’d get a speeding ticket & most likely a blistered bellend.

Did you think 5–7 minutes is short? 5–7 minutes of actual sex to acheive orgasm wouldn’t seem short to me. I know you weren’t having sex, but it wasn’t foreplay, it was focused stimulation of his boy parts. I think most men orgasm at about the 2–5 minute mark once part A is actually inside of part B. I think most women by 10 minutes are wondering when the whole thing is going to be over if he isn’t finished yet.

Hours.

@livelaughlove21 Maybe, maybe not, but yeah, I should have tossed in the STD thing too.

I last so long that I long for the last.

@RealEyesRealizeRealLies Hah…you would be what I call a “stucco lay.” Where the guy takes SO long I start finding patterns on the stucco ceiling. ‘Ooh look, I see a bunny with a balloon!” groan

@Coloma which reminds me of a joke:

Q: How can you tell whether you are with your wife, your mistress or a prostitute?

A: The prostitute will ask “Honey, are you getting your moneys worth”?
Your mistress will ask “Darling, are you enjoying this as much as I am”?
Your wife will say “Beige, I think we should paint the ceiling beige”.

@Coloma LOL!

@rojo Hahahaha!

I blame porn for men thinking they are supposed to last 25 minutes. I blame porn for a lot of bullshit men think and expect from the bedroom as you can tell. I’ll refrain from giving a long list.

^ Yeah.

I get all my lovemaking pointers from mainstream pornography.

Damn. Just how stupid and shallow do you think I am?

“Expect”?

Oh, I guess you weren’t aware sex is an act of sharing.

So pornography depicts acts that aren’t to your taste. That doesn’t mean they cannot be to others’.

@SecondHandStoke Not all men and not all anybody. Chill out. Men would be surprised how many things women don’t like that men think women do like because of porn or male gossip. There probably are few stray girls who like those things.

I am not accusing all men of watching too much porn and believing everything they see in porn.

@JLeslie While I do agree with your sentiments, it strikes me as odd that you believe that men are the only ones that get misconceptions about sex from porn. There are plenty of women out there that do things that they think men will like because they “saw it in a porn”.

@El_Cadejo Well, I never said only men. However, men do consume porn more than women and men as a whole are more visual than women in the bedroom. As far as what women like to have done to them by men, certainly women know what feels good. Some men, trust me, want to do and see what they want to do to her so badly that they don’t care that it doesn’t please her.

I could list a bunch of things, but I won’t.

There is such a thing as porn induced sexual dysfunction.

@JLeslie I agree, porn can be very damaging.

I last around 30 minutes.

How long a man lasts depends a lot on his health (physical and mental) and his health partially depends on his diet/physical activity. Common causes for not lasting long are abnormal hormones, reflexes, chemical imbalances, inherited traits and anxiety.

When we say “last,” are we talking non-stop steady-rate thrusting? If so, anymore than 10 minutes sounds like torture to me. If we’re including foreplay, stopping to switch positions, slowing down to kiss, etc., that’s a different story.

Again, while it might very well be perceived as torture to some, it really depends on the individual’s age and health. However, last time I looked up some statistics, a woman, on average, needs around 15 minutes of nonstop, proper, stimulation to experience an orgasm. My wife, however, needs somewhere between 20 and 30 minutes. Slowing down to kiss (the rate of thrust) is irrelevant as long as the thrust is consistent.

Speaking for myself, 30 minutes of non-stop thrusting is towards the end – a finisher. If I were to incorporate foreplay, just kissing, and switching positions into the time estimation, then it is probably around an hour+.

How often you have sex also factors in to how long one lasts.

@eno Most women do not orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, most require direct clitoral stimulation. How long one goes means nothing if the action is missing the target zone. lol

Hence my emphasis on the word proper stimulation. If done properly, penetration is sufficient.

Consistent thrust was in reference to the perception of torture.

@eno
I have had G-spot orgasms based on the curvature of certain lovers but basic penetration does not stimulate most women in the right manner. There is no such thing as “proper” penetration.

I don’t think we’re on the same page here. When I say proper, I’m referring to a special position, not a basic one. There are 4 types of orgasms. A clitorial, a vaginal (g-spot), a blend of the two, and a multi-orgasmic one. The only reason I can think of why you personally claim you cannot experience both orgasms simultaneously through penetration is either you were not aroused enough prior to penetration or you or your partner don’t know how to position yourselfs for it. This is 20+ years of experience talking. What you’re saying simply isn’t true. You can achieve a vaginal and clitorial orgasm simultaneously through penetration.

One of such positions is for a female to align her hips and tilt her pelvis upward so that the base of a man’s penis is on the clitoris but the rest of him is inside you. The idea is the man grinds against her pelvic bone instead of thrusting up and down. Another position is having the girl on top or on the lap of the man (not facing towards the man). The idea being that the man stimulates the clitoris in this position and the woman controls the thrusting.

Even a multi-orgasm can be achieved through penetration but it all depends on a woman’s tolerance of continuous stimuli after an orgasm.

Again, what is most important is to stimulate the correct area and to maintain a constant stimulation. It doesn’t matter if it is slow or fast, although switching from slow to fast and visa versa has a stronger impact. Prior to penetration, foreplay goes without saying.

@eno It all depends on a womans physiology, there is no one size fits all.
You cannot say that EVERY woman will have all these orgasmic variants based on position, simply not true and I have 40 years of sexual experience. haha
Some women never have multiple orgasms, some women do, some women never have G-spot orgasms, regardless of technique. No disrespect intended but your sharings are pretentious and simply not true for all women.

You may be able skilled involving the particular women you have had experience with but you cannot claim to know for certain that every woman will respond the same based on position only.
I have engaged in every possible position known to man and then some and I certainly know what works for me. Please refrain from making blanket statements about womens sexuality.

I never said everyone and or even mentioned most. I have no idea what you’re reading. All i’m saying is it is possible.

In fact, I made it clear several times that it really depends on the individual. Particularly age, health, physical activity, mental state, diet, traits, experience, and the rate of recurrence.

@eno Most women do not orgasm from penetration alone. Look up the stats. Everything you said a sex expert would roll their eyes at. 20–30 minutes of actual penetration is a long time statistically and atypical. Most women don’t want to go at it that long. I would put over 20 minutes in the delayed ejaculation category. I never have an orgasm from just penetration, but I can have one in less than two minutes from clitoral stimulation, so it isn’t that I have some sort of hang up about sex or am not aroused enough. I prefer a combination of the two personally.

I disagree it has to do with age, health, and some of the other things you listed.

Again, I never said most. I’m simply stating that it is indeed possible and I’ve been successful at it with my wife for 20+ years now. Why would I care about someone else’s sexual experiences? This question is geared for personal experience, is it not?

I agree, 20–30 minutes is not the norm, hence why I said my wife and I require what is above normal. Yes, a delayed ejaculation leads to a much more intense ejaculation by delaying until the point where you can no longer. That clocks me at around 30 minutes of continuous thrust, plus another half hour+ prior for the foreplay, kissing, etc. What is the problem?

I’m not sure what you’re trying to tell me by pointing out someone else’s sexual experiences?

I’m trying to tell you that it is not possible for most women. Doesn’t matter the technique or how long.

When I say delayed ejaculation I mean as a dysfunction, not a good thing.

Oh, that is fine. I don’t think there was ever a disagreement there. I thought you were saying that it isn’t possible at all.

As for delayed ejaculation, I’m referring to purposefully redirecting your flow when you feel a need to ejeculate. This can be done for hours, if done properly, but I usually go up to 30 minutes. Also, delayed ejaculation is only a problem if it causes stress for you or your partner. Otherwise, it is fine.

If both people are happy with the timing then no problem. I agree. I think most women don’t want to go that long, but if your wife loves it then you are a good match.

I’m not sure why you thought not possible at all, where did anyone say that? I said not possible for most women. Talk about women should be able to orgasm during sex just makes women feel inadequate when the reality is they are completely normal and in fact part of the majority.

No idea. I might have misread it.

I think the misconceptions about @eno‘s intent comes from the way he wrote with such certainty which gave the idea that he was referring to “all.” “Hence my emphasis on the word proper stimulation. If done properly, penetration is sufficient.” “The only reason I can think of why you personally claim you cannot experience both orgasms simultaneously through penetration is either you were not aroused enough prior to penetration or you or your partner don’t know how to position yourselfs for it. This is 20+ years of experience talking. What you’re saying simply isn’t true. You can achieve a vaginal and clitorial orgasm simultaneously through penetration.”

I also agree with @JLeslie that 30 minutes to ejaculate seems dysfunctional.

I think you’re conflating deliberate withdrawal from ejeculation with the inability to ejecuate within a time frame below the 30 min mark, because by your logic, anyone who practices tantric sex would be considered dysfunctional.

And if both parties are happy with the timing, what exactly is dysfunctional?

@eno I said if you are both happy then it’s fine. If you can ejaculate in a short time, but choose to extend the period, then I agree it is not dysfunctional.

Oh, I wasn’t asking you. jleslie. I was asking jca.

I know, but pretty much @jca and I are agreeing. I can’t speak directly for her though, I am sure she will come back and answer.

20–60 minutes, takes me forever and sometimes I just say fuck it and end it early