NSFW If you engaged in intimate relationships during the 1980s, did you do this?

Well..depends I suppose on the geography and individuals but…I was a teen in the 70’s and I can assure you that oral sex was very much a part of my sexuality and that of my liasons. It was the era of sex, drugs and rock-n-roll. Of course I was a California girl, maybe the person in question grew up on a pig farm in Missouri. lol

I also agree that one should not “perform” any sexual acts “routinely” if not truly engaged in mutual intimacy. I do not agree with porn star acting out for the sake of performance only.

Pretty much rings true for me.

I was a teen in the 80s and I really can’t remember if I did oral sex back then or not. I’m suspecting not, though.

I was a teen in the early 1970s and oral was just as much of our activity as intercourse.

I was a teen earlier on than that and I agree with it for me. Oral sex was certainly something we did and were aware of but as a very intimate act in an ongoing relationship – not as casual foreplay or on the school bus. it was not considered dirty but it was considered intimate. Casual blow jobs seem much more like girls servicing boys in a sexist way; you don’t hear much about reciprocity.

Things changed after HIV-AIDS was “invented” in the 80’s. Before then, intercourse was supposedly not as dangerous. We used condoms to prevent pregnancy because that was sure to end life as you know it. Oral sex was considered safe since no one could get pregnant.

I graduated high school in 1989. I really didn’t know what oral was until I started dating a prison guard in college and he put some porn in his VCR for us to watch. He expected me to do what the lovely ladies were doing in that video. I don’t remember receiving anything from him.

I stopped seeing him after that encounter.

That’s interesting. I’m about ten years older than today’s teenagers, but the second part matches up with what I know about dating today. (From my own experiences, my friends’ experiences, and more casual gossip.) Oral sex on a guy is seen as a type of foreplay. Oral sex on a girl is more like an intimate act between couples.

Sex ed today is dreadfully incomplete. My sex ed class had a heavy emphasis on abstince, with a brief overview of other methods of birth control and STDs. People are mostly left learning from their (uninformed) friends, or from the media.

I graduated in 74, and almost every sexual relationship I have had included oral sex.
I think it has been pretty common since “Deep Throat” came out.

I agree with @LuckyGuy that AIDS changed a lot of the customs surrounding sex, especially teenage sex.

I also feel like abstinence and the whole Christian wait until your married thing becake more vocal and loud in the 90’s. Maybe I am wrong about that, and it is only my experience growing up. I remember Brooke Shields being the famous virgin, but I don’t remember hearing about father daughter dances where girls orre rings and promise their virginity. If it was going on back then I wasn’t aware of it.

What I do remember in the late 80’s was virgin girls getting HIV because they were so worried about pregnancy and being virgins they had anal sex, which is even more dangerous, because you are more likely to tear. Not counting your hymen breaking, but you can break your hymen before you ever have sex.

Whehn I was a girl first base was kissing, second was getting felt up, third was touching between the legs, and a home run was sex. Not oral sex, sex you can get pregnant without protection sex. Oral sex was not even on that list of instructions for the home run. LOL.

I think girls giving boys head like it is as casual as kissing is horrible! Most of the girls do not want to do it. It’s all peer pressure. Especially what @Haleth wrote that oral sex on a girl is more intimate than on a boy just drives me crazy. When I did learn about oral sex we talked about doing 69 and I have never been with a guy who didn’t think of it as a reciprocal thing.

Right. Aids changed everything by the early 80’s.

I graduated from high school in ‘73. Back then it seemed much more remarkable to get oral sex than it was to have intercourse, remarkable because amongst young men discussing their exploits, oral sex was something that one remarked on.

Even in the ‘80s, men would joke about not receiving oral sex. Standard bachelor party joke was, “you know those blow jobs she said you’d get after you’re married? You’re not getting them then, either.”

Thank you everyone. I was a little surprised by the article because I was sexually active in the 1980s and my perception was very different to the authors. In my experience oral sex was widely practiced and certainly wasn’t something that people in relationships were unlikely to try for months or even years. While I agree people weren’t quite so cavalier about oral sex as young people today might be, it wasn’t something I considered exotic and more intimate than intercourse. It was just part of having sex. Even in the 1980s, I considered oral sex to be foreplay.

Great to read the wide range of perspectives.

Is anyone here else getting a little excited? :P

Had a guy ask for a porn star bj. Is there any other way? ;)

<—- A guy here and I just don’t get it.
If I were a woman giving oral and a guy pinched my nose or got off on making me choke, at a minimum that would be the last time he ever saw me.
At a maximum it would be the last time he ever peed without using a catheter.

Noooo not what I ment about porn star…. Being super into it… Yea the choking…not happening.

@Spicy Whew! I feel much better now.
I can’t understand why that practice exists – and why women, or anyone else, tolerate it.
But, hey, who am I to judge two consenting adults and all that.

The world can rest assured I will never choke someone.

For more than a few reasons. :-)

Thank you everyone for their responses here. I missed the last few. If anyone pinched me on the nose or choked me while I was giving head, he might end up a bit shorter and I don’t mean in height.

I agree with you I found very few girls that would do oral on me but I gave it out quite a bit