When you sleep, can you sleep if someone is holding onto you or do you need your space in bed?

Mostly, I need my space, mostly.

I think I’m used to sleeping alone now. I don’t really want anyone to hold onto me. But I want to hold onto something (like a pillow).

I can sleep touching, but not with her weight on me anywhere.

Either works for me. My wife and I often fall asleep while cuddling.

I don’t like my face being breathed on and a sleeping man on top of me makes my hips hurt . So when they really hurt I nicely push him off.

I need my space, I get to over heated if Mrs Squeeky is pushed up against me while sleeping.

It depends on the temperature. If It’s hot, I don’t really want to be touched while I sleep. When it’s cold, I can spoon, ½ under, or ½ over.

When the weather is cool, I can be a champion cuddlier. Like two pools merging.

Were it up to me and money was no object? The thermostat would be at around 67° at night, year round, but for about 2 months, one in the spring and one in the fall.

I absolutely love cuddling. My wife absolutely hates it during actual sleep time which drives me nuts hahha

I’ve never slept with someone else but I can’t imagine I’d enjoy it. I move a lot in my sleep and sleep either on my back or straight on my side, so I’m not sure how someone would hold me. I also have trouble actually falling asleep and staying asleep, so the whole night would really just be a sleepless disaster for the other person.

Sigh

@dxs. I worry about you. You seem so cuddly sometimes, but you seem to be missing life.

@dxs – That is how I’ve been since my husband left. It sounds like you are searching in your sleep for a cuddle. Sorry to be so personal.

When we were newly weds, my husband and I fell asleep holding each other, and during the night we’d each scoot to our own side. Somewhere along the way, it witched. We would fall asleep on our own sides, and wake up pressed together, or holding the other. When he was traveling, I would wake up on his side.
I still can’t get used to having the whole thing to myself. I chase the pillows around until they jump to the floor for safety. Poor things! I should get myself a teddy bear, maybe.

Space. My wife is a heater. It’s nice in the winter though.

I like the space.

I was married for about 300 years and I have really loved sleeping alone the last 12 now.
I bought myself a luxurious bed and I’m very happy sleeping alone, sprawled out with my 2 cats these days.
I’ve had enough spooning to get me through til my dying day. lol

There has been only one man in my life that I’ve been able to cuddle close together then actually sleep all night, and we had a son together. However, our relationship ended for good in 1993.

Ever since, I’ve not been able to sleep cuddled up with anyone comfortably. Some breathe too hard, some don’t angle or fit with my body right. some twitch like crazy. I got to a point where I preferred my space. It works well because my current bed-partner is such a light sleeper that he does not like to be touched while sleeping.

I need space usually.

I can but I sleep better alone. We have a compromise that works well.

Like the Jamaican astronaut wrote on his NASA application “ah needs ma space mon”

I also have the Human Radiator issue with my wife. If I let her cuddle through the night, I wake up in a puddle of sweat. And, as an added bonus, she drools like a monster. She is adorable though. :^)

Usually, the fastest way for me to fall asleep is with my husband cuddling or spooning, at minimum some sort of physical contact. It’s mostly because I tend to be cold, and his cuddle finally warms me up and then I can sleep. A warm down comforter has basically the same effect.

Once I’m warm then space is good.

If I am hot then I really need my space. I don’t even want the cuddle before sleep in that case.

Cuddling usually puts me out like a light.

It depends on the temperature and humidity.

Cuddling isn’t out of the question but, for the most part it’s only me in the casket.

I love holding or being held. I fall asleep quickly in either postion.

I loooove falling asleep cuddling. Sometimes I wake up and need to roll over or move away.

I like falling asleep against someone but after awhile, I’m fighting for my space.

I like a good cuddle but cannot sleep that way. If I have trouble sleeping, placing my hand on my husband’s back or shoulder will help me go to sleep.

Really depends entirely on the temperature. I like cuddles if it’s not too hot, but if the other half is sweating he can shove off. :)

@downtide Amen to that!

Rarely. Thank goodness that the SO feels the same way.

I should note that I live in the dorms, therefore have a twin bed, therefore learning to sleep-cuddle was pretty much non-negotiable – lol!

@Mariah Don’t let a twin bed stop you from sleep-cuddling with your partner. Having a roommate should though.

My own space, it’d be really uncomfortable sleeping like that.

@Pied_Pfeffer Nah the twin bed forces sleep-cuddling to occur! No roommate either…life is good lol.

@Pied_Pfeffer I don’t know about college now, but in my day it wasn’t unusual for a boyfriend to spend the night with a roommate still in the room.

I went from an extremely touch SO to my space-loving husband. Either is ok, I have my dogs to cuddle lol.

I’m largely okay with being held close. Unless I get too hot.

I mean, I don’t want to be all slippery, hot.

Unless.
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I need space to cuddle with my four pillows. (My husband sleeps with five.)

We did the cuddle thing when we were younger, but his snoring kept me up and my twitching and kicking kept him up. Now we have a nice big king size bed for all our pillows and I can twitch as much as I need to.

@jonsblnd: My wife and I are also multi-pillow sleepers. Me five and her four as well. Pillows rock.