What does it mean when a girl calls you lovable?

Sorta sounds like it.

There’s no such thing as the friend zone. It’s just a bullshit meme invented by people who think that women are machines you put kindness coins into until sex falls out. So the first thing to do is get that whole notion out of your head. It will serve you better whatever the future of your relationship with this girl is.

As for what it means, we can’t tell you. There’s too much we don’t know: the history of your relationship, her tone of voice, the context of the conversation, etc. It could be a way of telling you that she’s interested. It could be a way of telling you she’s not interested. But if you are interested in her, then you’ll just have to work up the courage to ask her out or tell her how you feel. Then you’ll know for sure and can proceed accordingly.

P.S. Asking her out (in a low pressure way) is a better approach than a confession of romantic feelings (which always creates a high pressure demand for a response).

It sounds to me like the word “lovable” is this girl’s word of the week and so she is overusing it.

I think she just finds you very lovable. Sometimes people just mean exactly what they say. It may be that she finds it is so easy to listen too you, to talk too, to trust you and believe you are a very sweet person. Usually very gregarious people are described as lovable.
Here is the thing about friend zoned people. Being friend zoned does not mean the person will never like you more than a friend. I told my husband at first that we would be friends only and he agreed that was fine. We both enjoyed each others company and liked the idea of going clubbing together.

Well I meant it and he didn’t. Before I knew it I liked him way more than a friend and I could tell he felt more for me. Three months later we were married. I found him to be very charming and sweet and I couldn’t stop thinking about him after the 3 hour phone marathon we had. The friend zone allowed us both to be open and honest about every subject. Something that regular boyfriends never did.

So if you like her. Continue to be lovable. That is not a bad place to be, nor a bad thing to be. It’s better than her saying you can be so despicable any day. If being open and honest doesn’t draw her closer to you, than so be it. In the end you may have a close and caring friend. You lose nothing by being yourself, and everything by pulling away.

You are nice, friendly, but not boyfriend material.

She wants to be friends, just not boyfriend/girlfriend.

You are a friend. Someone else besides her might love you enough to be more than friends, just not her. It could change but I wouldn’t get my hopes up. (Women decide the first time they meet a man if he will be a lover or friend. Your fate with her has been decided.)

She wants you. She wants you bad.

Your move, tell her she is huggable
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It’s very hard to tell without knowing the rest of the conversation. But it sounds like she is trying to reassure you that you are worthy of love, even though she doesn’t personally feel that way about you.

And also what @SavoirFaire said about the friend zone. Guys treat the “friendzone” thing like it’s something mean that women do to them. It carries an implication that the guy feels like he deserved a relationship with her, or that she owed it to him. It’s like friendship is a crappy consolation prize. Nobody can help who they’re attracted to, and nobody owes someone else their affection. The friendzone doesn’t exist.

”invented by people who think that women are machines you put kindness coins into until sex falls out.”

@SavoirFaire: Quote of the week.

I don’t know why @SavoirFaire finds the term friend zone so objectionable. My guess is that is exactly what is happening. She is saying you are a “nice guy”, but I have no romantic interest in you. Next time that happens, call her on it. Ask her what she means by lovable.

@Haleth – You have put my thoughts into words exactly. Every time I hear men groan about being in the friend zone, I have to wonder if they CAN value friendship with a woman at all. I am very sorry to know that all the dozens and dozens of men I know are beating their brains in because they will never be more than my friend. I had no idea friendship was the consolation prize. I thought friendship was valuable, and special, and rare. I think being called friend outweighs being called a pugnacious runt.
Shame on you, you men I thought of as being so level headed and kind. Why would you perpetuate such garbage.
@willybobw – be glad for what she said. Maybe you are a friend, and maybe more. If you and she are quite young, neither of you have need for more, and yes, friendship often blossoms to become something bigger, and very wonderful.

My suggestion is to apply Occham’s Razor, a principle which states that the simpler explanation is the better, and chalk it up to a nice compliment. In other words, just enjoy it rather than over-analyze it.

Despite the plethora of opinions we could amass the only way to know for sure is to ask her if she’d like to date a “lovable” person or just be friends with him, then go from there based on her answer, assuming of course you have an interested beyond friendship. Otherwise, nothing ventured, nothing gained and you’ll likely never know. Good luck. Peace, BosM

I have to agree with @Pachy. Life moves along much smoother if you take most people, and their comments, at face value.

Do you consider yourself “lovable”?? Do you think that’s a fair description of you?

I think I’d rather be called “lovable” than a “teddy bear”...

Although the two are not necessarily mutually exclusive!

I think you’ve been flirted with.