Why are people so judgemental always?

Some are, some aren’t. I definitely think that your question – using the word “always” is definitely an exaggeration.

Having said that, however, human nature is to view and interact with others. It’s part of life. From the moment you wake up in the morning until you go to sleep, you are interacting with others—and that means: evaluating who they are, what they say and do, and how to respond to them. Which means that you are being judgmental towards them just as they are to you.

I think that what you are really asking is: “why are people judging me so negatively?”. That’s a different story and there can be 1000 reasons for that – based on their personality, your personality, situations, history, and so on.

Every interaction you have with anyone – you and they are evaluating each other. There is no way around it.

People see others by their own standards, education, beliefs, etc. It isn’t intentional, just automatic. This gives them a sense that they do know inside of the other person’s mind. Even when the other person is behaving some way entirely different, that first person feels they know why, judging from their own experiences and knowledge.

Kind of generalizing here aren’t we?

Everyone is not always judgmental. Sometimes things, and actions, are taken at face value.

Again Elbandito, here you seem to judge that why people are judging me so negatively, I never meant that, what made you think so?

@Khajuria9 – no particular reason. Most people ask questions that pertain to them, as opposed to theoretical questions. I made an assumption that you, the asker, were asking a question that had personal relevance.

What are people saying about you? What is going on that makes you think you are being judged negatively and unfairly? Not much info to go on here.

I think we’ve evolved to make intuitive assumptions about others based on sketchy evidence (AKA “snap judgments”). It’s a trait that probably served our distant ancestors quite well in a time when the intentions of a stranger had to be assessed quickly from just a few clues. All of our more primitive traits still function, though newer, more sophisticated faculties may moderate them.

When we meet someone, those old faculties instantly get to work trying to figure out whether this person is a potential threat or an ally. How does their presence affect your social standing and connections? All of this happens very quickly and (mostly) subconsciously. These judgments will be based on things like body language, cultural stereotypes, clothing, etc. Even if the higher functions of your brain know that there’s a lot more to a person than these superficialities and that they can be very misleading, this snap judgment process will still happen. Some of us are just better at overriding it in favor of a more patient and informed understanding. That takes a good bit of self-awareness.

Human nature. No one wants someone else to be better or get better or attain better than themselves. If you have aspirations to become more than you or the people around you are, some one will be sure to say “Oh, you can’t do that!” (Stay down here in the muck with us other poor stupid fools where you (we think) belong!)

Just part of being human,even when some say they don’t judge , they really are.
Your not going to ever change it,so live with it.

We all judge people in some ways, maybe at times, without realizing it. I was going to say not all us are judgemental. I was thinking I’m not, but then I thought back up the bus. I do it too. Maybe on different things then someone else, but it’s there. Another GQ.

I agree with @Adirondackwannabe. I think we’re wired to do it, and I daresay we prefer doing it to others rather than having it done to us. The trick is not to automatically accept other folks’ judgements. That’s tantamount to living their lives, not ours.

Thanks to all for answering.
I really liked your points of view Thorninmud, Patchy, Adiron,, Kritiper…. So nice of you to answer.
:)

We are always eager to find traces of ourselves in others and we judge according to what we find.

It is so because you perceive it to be so. Let’s not deny that we’re all making judgements about other people here, and there.

It’s what we do, as humans. We can never make a fully informed decision about everything that comes our way. There simply isn’t enough time in the day, and it is an incredibly inefficient use of resources. So we short cut. We use past experiences to approximate the future. We use hearsay to give us a heads-up on a situation, and we decide if we like a person or not within about two minutes of first meeting them. It’s not a perfect system, but it is efficient. Refusing to make judgement calls is the first step to becoming a non-participant in life.

Because it’s in our genes ! Whether we like to judge people or not, we are tend to do so.

@smryna It might be a survival mechanism. We evolved learning to evaluate threats and hazardous conditions from a distance to give us a chance to react and avoid bad crap.

Unfortunately many people judge people based on the surface, at least initially, and then some are wise enough to look at a person on a deeper level to try to know who they really are. Coz we all know looks can be deceiving. So never judge a book by its cover!