How can I not be weird about asking this girl out, if possible?

By not doing anything. She may feel you are using the situation to make her feel pressured.
Don’t dwell on it, just move on.

First of all, why is it that so many love struck men assume when stricken that the beautiful woman responsible is unattached.? I mean realistically, what are the chances? With that in mind, you shouldn’t stumble around worrying about her reaction to you asking her out, You’ve already been introduced. Don’t waste time writing a letter. Call her, and tell her that she’s been on your mind. Then mention that it wasn’t necessary for her to destroy your car in an effort to get your attention. Ditch the mundane “wanna have a drink?” Think of something different and interesting for a promising first date. How about meeting somewhere for a pair of fabulous desserts, and never never underestimate the power of chocolate when wooing a woman. Remember, she’s probably already involved with some loser, so dive in and find out. time’s a wastin. Good luck.

I didn’t mean I was LITERALLY going out for a drink with her. I’m just saying I would ask her out. Of course I would think of something better.

@Here2_4 That’s one thing I was worried about, that she would just feel pressured. Yet at the same time wouldn’t she be relieved that I hold no grudge against her?

The ironic thing is even my mother suggested calling her for a date – sort of half-jokingly.

I feel like calling her is too scary though. A letter would take time, and in that sense I feel like it would tell her that I took the time to think my words.

And I don’t think it’s safe to assume that she would have felt the same way about me. It was a friggin car accident. She was consoling a friend and kept saying sorry as she sought for her insurance. Things went by fast. Her car got effed up more than mine, so the whole thing was probably going ten times faster in her head than mine.

Okay. If you are not going to let it be an unfortunate encounter and nothing more, I will tell you from a woman’s standpoint.
If I were her, and you asked me out, I would feel like you were an icky opportunist. Your only chance is to make yourself absolutely harmless. First, have a balloon bouquet sent to her. Make them pretty, or cute, but nothing which sounds at all pleading. Include a card which says to the effect, I bear no grudge, honest. As it is, our meeting left me no choice but to notice you. I think you are beautiful, and I would like very much to know if there could be a chance you might go out with me. If that is okay with you, send me a text at this number, and say Okay, so I know I can call. If you don’t text, I will not contact you again.
I know it sounds condescending, but you have to make it clear that there are no strings at all, but also make it clear that you are genuinely attracted to her.
You don’t want to ask her to call, that would be tacky. You do want her permission for you to call.
Good luck.

What do you have to lose? Do it!

GA @Here2_4!

Show up at her door. When she answers say “you rear-ended me, I think it’s time I rear-end you”. If she doesn’t pepper spray you or call the police then you’ve hooked her.

Wait, you wanted non-weird…

If you really want her then I say just go for it. Don’t bother with a letter or anything, just call or text her. Don’t profess your undying love for her or anything (nothing will make a girl run in the opposite direction than a guy she barely knows doing that), but make it clear you want to date her. She might think you’re creepy, desperate or opportunist anyway, but you’ve lost nothing in the attempt, save maybe a hit to your ego (which will recover quickly enough). As the saying goes: nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Call her, and be honest.

The very fact that you have angst of the whole thing is charming, and it should charm her. Don’t try to be suave or debonaire, just be yourself. Your intentions are good, let that be known and lead with it.

“Hey, I just got the police report, and I wanted to make sure you were okay? And, you know, I sort of couldn’t get you out of my mind? I’d like to meet again, under better circumstances? If you’d like to, I mean.”

If you’re plainly honest, it will disarm and charm her. If she thinks your weird, move on.

Just do it.

Everybody in a relationship met under some type of circumstance (usually far more mundane) so if the two of you do end up together, it will certainly make a unique story.

There are several good potential ways to get a first date with her described in responses above. Pick one and go with it.

As long as you can manage to avoid coming off as either creepy or desperate, it needn’t be weird at all. What have you got to lose? Everybody has to meet somehow.

You don’t want to be spending the rest of your days wondering “what if…?”

If the attraction is not mutual and she turns you down, what’s the worst that could happen? And at least you’ll know.

Do it!

I first met my husband when I wrote him a parking ticket. He hunted me up and tore it up and handed it back to me. I said to myself, “I can use this!” and I have, ever since.

So go for it already.

You were a cop?

Meter Maid? Gourd, I’ve not thought about them for decades.

@Here2_4 and @ibstubro I used to write parking tickets for a university.

Meter Maid! What a blast from the past!