My friend says I shouldn't talk to the guy I like...?

If you’re all on social networking sites together, can’t you tell whether he’s been stalking her? In my experience, young people are just not that stealthy.

Regardless, sure, the best thing is always to keep an open mind and form your own opinion. You’ve had a warning, so be on the lookout for red flags in his behaviour. And be aware that guys who want to use girls often know which buttons to push to get what they want. He may talk a good “gender equality” game, while really being a pick-up artist.

Just use your head as well as your heart.

Listen to @dappled_leaves. You need to do your research and then make your own decision. It might be right or it might be wrong. Either way you can learn from it and in the future your choices will be a little easier.

lord, I am glad I don’t have to deal with this cr stuff any more.

Unfortunately, you can’t just take anyone’s word right now. At the very least, if your interest in each other goes beyond just talking at a certain point and you decide you want to hang out outside of school, go on double dates. That way, you get to form better opinions of his personality and behavior (like whether or not he does respect boundaries when he’s in an environment outside of school), but you also have a trusted friend around in case things do get uncomfortable for you. The key is to be open-minded about him, but to also be cautious and safe.

And the last thing: If you decide to move forward with him in whatever way, feel free to come back to Fluther and ask more questions about it. There are a lot of caring people around here, some of which would always be willing to try to give you helpful advice. Good luck with everything!

I asked some other people and they told me I should be careful but I should talk to him and I should form my own opinion on him instead of just listening to what others say about him.

Nobody can give you better advice that you’ve already gotten.

ALso, at your age, some girls can be lying jealous diva devils. Give the guy a chance.

Do you know if that girl who told you that the guy you like is a bad person doesn’t like him and she is trying to keep him for herself? I suggest you do some personal research, ask people you trust and be careful about the information you are giving on the internet. If you are not posting personal information, then, even if he is a stalker he will not be easily able to cause you problems. Talk about it with people who know about him and you trust.