Do you like old friends from other states inviting themselves to your home?

I’ve been lucky that way, although before we had a second child, my ex and I used to get visitors.

But after my daughter was born it was, “gee, we’d love to see you; the Park Hotel is nice and it’s close, do you want their phone number?”

I’m curious, do you live somewhere that people like to vacation?

@zenvelo nope.

It happens all the time. The problem is they don’t realize that EVERYONE wants to visit. I blame it on the town, because I’m certainly too obnoxious to be the draw. The wife is even less hospitable than me. We’ve eliminated the extra beds, and the wife has converted one bedroom to a music and quilting room, while I’ve converted the front bedroom to a library with some 900 moldy books. It hasn’t made a bit of difference. Six to eight times a year, folks invite themselves to a visit. I whine a lot and cringe at the prospect every time, but wind up enjoying the visits as disruptive as they always are. The business and other matters slide toward hell, and I wind up bustin my ass when the clueless but happy guests depart. But hey, my complaints may be many, but at least boredom or loneliness are not among them.

No. I think it’s extremely rude.

@stanleybmanly so you tell them it’s fine and to come and visit then. That’s more than I do. And I certainly don’t have it happen with six to eight people.
Another situation I have is an old girlfriend of mine, who is still a close friend, wants me to come visit . Her husband, also a friend, hates visitors so that’s one reason I hesitate. The other is the hour’s drive. She’s lonely and rather depressed and I don’t mind her venting on me one bit. My s/o goes bonkers when I go away. He even becomes hateful about it but won’t say what the reasons are. I really hate to be away more than one night, I get terribly homesick and insecure but he doesn’t believe me. lol

I don’t tell them it’s fine. I tell them they’ll have to fend for themselves, and sleep on the futon or the couch. They come anyway, and we never wind up sticking to “fend for yourself”, but there will only be 1 bed in this house while I’m alive. My brother’s daughter, and my sister’s son are really handy at inviting themselves to visit, and think nothing of bringing their SOs. The boy’s ex had such a fine time that SHE now invites herself and her new boyfriend. It’s a mess, because my kids also invite their college friends and friends they grew up with who’ve moved away to come visit and “stay at my folks’ place” They crash on the futon in the “library” where the mold spores are palpable, yet none of them seem to suffer debilitating lung infections as I planned.

What a nightmare! There is something you all are doing that is making people love being there. One of the most boring atmospheres for visitors is when the homeowners don’t talk. They stare at the tv. I bet that would work if you wouldn’t feel guilty.

This is another reason why I don’t join Facebook. Relatives and long lost friends inviting themselves to visit since I live in New York. My daughter joined facebook and twice an old school friend invited themselves to visit and stay with her. They always “wanted to see New York.”

Now, my daughter only talks to close family. nix on the friends. Not people looking for a New York vacation with no hotel fee and free car service and home cook meals.

I would love it if my friends wanted to come visit me. No one wants to travel that far.

They crash on the futon in the “library” where the mold spores are palpable, yet none of them seem to suffer debilitating lung infections as I planned.

Ha!

I love having friends and family come to visit! There isn’t much room. But if they don’t mind, I don’t mind. I’m pretty used to people being on top of each other. (Grew up in a family of six. Lived in 2–3 bedroom apartments.)

I really enjoy having people visit! (Certain people anyway.)
If they are clean, take off their shoes inside, help with whatever project I’m doing, and prepare a meal or two they can stay for a week before I will bat an eye.

I’M not big on guests but hubs thinks it’ great. I’m more ok if they like wine, books, walks & dogs lol