Is there a graceful way of giving someone an "out"?

Simply tell him or her that it’s been taken care of, so that s/he no longer has to. Then, thank the person.

“Hey I know you said you would help me move (dog sit, host a party, dig a ditch, whatever) but I think I’ve got it covered now. I really appreciate that you offered to help.”

Depends on what it is. You wouldn’t want to tell a friend that agreed to be your bridesmaid that you’ve “got it covered.”

I’d be honest, “You know, I’m getting the impression that you don’t really want to do this. Let me know if I’m wrong, but I just want you to know that there are no hard feelings if you’d rather not do it.”

There’s a guy at work who I frequently (and gladly) help out whenever I grt a chance. There’s never been a time I haven’t wanted to help him, but I often have a lot of my own stuff to do.

He always gives me a “potential out” (?), because I think he realizes how much I have on my plate…something to the effect of, “if it’s just too much, let me know and I’ll get to it as soon as I can”. As much as I enjoy helping him, I always appreciate him saying that as it takes the pressure off if I just don’t have the time.

I think people sometimes offer to help but then get more and more bogged down. ..and then might regret volunteering.

Nike.

Just DO it.

Everyone’s happy.

I’m with @livelaughlove21 on this one, for the most part. If you’re close enough with this person to have open and honest communication (without the person feeling like they’re put on the spot because of it), I suggest just asking if they’re still alright to do it, and that if not, you understand. That way you’re letting them know you sense their possible hesitation and you’re also giving them an opportunity to be honest if they’d rather not, for whatever reason.

If it’s bothering you that they’re only going to help because they’re obligated, and not because it’s something they’d genuinely like to do for you, I also understand being a little upset about it. Give them the chance to explain, though. Their reason for hesitation might ease your mind somewhat if you are feeling hurt. If not, completely disregard this part of my answer. Heh. :)

Yes, you can first thanks the person for whatever he did and then tell him straight away but with a polite words.