Do guys often play hard to get as girls do?

No. You already know how he really feels – he told you! He’s dating many girls and having fun. He doesn’t want to be your boyfriend.

Do yourself a favor and don’t try to find underlying meanings of male behavior. If a guy likes you, he’ll let you know. This dude doesn’t strike me as the shy type.

You also might want to read and/or watch ‘He’s Just Not That Into You.’

Not usually, but he may actually be living the way he says, or just saying it to come off as a harder catch. It may or not be what this guy is doing, but there is some dating advice for men that says men should do or say things like this to make themselves more attractive to women.

If the guy is not really interested in being gotten, then anything he does will look like playing hard to get.
So the question is, is he worth the effort? If he is under 25, the answer is probably not, speaking only from my personal self assessment of myself before that age.

They can be aloof, but not to the point of being hard to get.

Men who seem to not care whether they see you or not, and who always need to check their calendar (if they are young, working men really might have a crazy schedule for many reasons) and who won’t commit to a date until close to the day, are bad news. It’s all sorts of red flags in my opinion. When I guy likes you he will want to soend lots and lots of time with you.

You don’t say how old you are but games like this strike me as childish. Not that everyone should reveal every single nuance about how they’re feeling right away, but still, this type of coy behavior that leaves you guessing is really like 10th grade level.

He is 32 and I am 24

My gut feeling says stay away from him. 32?! Unless you just want casual dating with no strings attached and some sex, and will be dating other guys yourself.

If at 32 he’s still ‘seeing lots of girls’ and not calling you back, he’s really not interested. At that age he’s confident enough to let you know quite clearly that he wants to be with you. My experience is that if a man is interested in me, I have no doubt about it. He’ll be attentive and I won’t need to second guess about how he feels. My experience only, but men aren’t that complicated.

It’s fairly ingrained into our culture that the male is the aggressor when it comes to dating. So not only is there no benefit to playing hard to get, it may actually be a bad idea as some women will find such passivity a turnoff.

But this guy is being fairly straightforward. There is nothing to talk about or figure out because he laid it out plainly for you. He’s dating around and wanting to have fun. So what he’s offering you is occasional companionship and probably sex and nothing more.

If that does not appeal to you, then walk away. Were he looking for something more from you, he’d have acted/said so by now.

Some might, but not the same ratio as women. He likes that you’re interested, same as with the other girls, but he’s just not that interested in you.

No.

These 2 things seem unrelated. Do some men play hard to get? Sure. Does that mean this particular guy is doing that? No. I think he’s been upfront about his current lifestyle. In my eyes, I see no mystery involved. He told you he is dating many others. I don’t think he’s playing hard to get. I think he’s playing the field.

Actually, this guy should be commended for his honesty.