What should I do now?

Welcome to life and love. haha
The only thing you can do is accept that very few relationships last forever and all relationships are learning experiences. You sound very young, and the only thing that will help is time and maturity. I think it’s important you realize that holding yourself hostage is preventing you from moving forward and in doing so you are allowing this person to still control you emotionally long after they have moved on in their life/relationship situation.

You need to believe you deserve happiness and get on with your own life. Living in the past is not living and you must understand that everyone is free to choose whether or not they want to be in a relationship with someone. Relationship does not mean that someone is bound to you forever, and true “love” is always about wanting happiness for the other person even if it is not what you want.

It’s probably just going to take as much time as it’s going to take but the more you indulge your grief by looking at pictures, being places where he’s at, the harder it can be. I am finally getting past a failed friendship by not going anywhere the guy is and not looking at pictures. It took a while for me to realize that that was what I needed to do. The loss (and other losses) will always be with me but it is not defining me. And – keep busy with things you enjoy and people you like being with. It really does help.

What can you do? He has left you. You can’t change his behavior. You have no choice but to move on with your life.

Try getting interested in a new activity. Don’t think about him. Whenever the past or he comes into your mind, think about all the bad stuff that led to the break-up. Think how mean he was when you ran into him after you broke up.

“Its hard, its really hard. I miss him like crazy. I check his pics on social networks, even though we are no longer friends on any. I think he has moved on, and it even hurts the more. I’ve seen him a couple of times, but we always fought on those occasions. I was told I would feel beta with time, but its almost 5 months and I’m still hurt, like really hurt. I can’t even really go on dates with guys because all I think about is him. Sometimes, when I see a guy, I think its him. I’m always remembering him in almost everything I do or my friends do. What should I do? I know its really unreasonable but I can’t help it.”

You wrote this a week ago here and seemed to have copied it verbatim in the text of this question. ???

A year ago you no longer wanted to have sex with him. Ok, you had legitimate reasons and he was being a tool about it.
Six months ago you wanted to be left alone and were irritated when he called and wanted to do stuff but were still jealous when he spoke to other girls.
Now he has moved on and you want him back?
Why?
Why don’t you look back over the past year and see how badly he treated you, how selfish he was concentrating only on his own wants and needs while ignoring your pain, the terrible things he said to you when you needed him?
Reflect on the fact that the relationship was not all honey and roses and that you did all the giving while he did all the taking.
Tell yourself how lucky you are to be out of it now and able to go out and find someone who will treat you decently and give you the loving you deserve.
Then, get off your butt and get out there and find that person.
Recruit your friends to help you forget.
I bet if you talk to some of your girlfriends and tell them that you think he was actually a lousy person you will hear the truth from them about how badly he treated you and how they all thought he was scum to begin with and how much better off you are now. But if all you do when you are with them is mope about and bemoan the fact that he is gone they are just going to pat you on the back and say “There, there”.

Find something more fulfilling and constructive to focus on at this stage! There is so much else you could be doing.

How long were you with him? I read somewhere that for recovery from the breakup of a “serious” romantic relationship you should count on “one month per year of the relationship”. Frankly, I think that may be low, and it certainly depends on how invested you were in the relationship.

@gailcalled i copied it and pasted it on here because I didnt get any answers and I really need your answers you see, @CWOTUS we were together for 2 years. @everyone thanks for your suggestions, I just have a tiny problem I don’t know how to open up to my friends.