Have you ever felt like you messed up your relationship with someone that you thought was your soulmate?

Last year I befriended with a group of friends. All of them liked me and would share everything about their life to me. One of them even told me I was “lovely and easy-going”. I thought I had found my soulmate until one day, a series of misfortune came to us. Although they were just accidents, they kept on blaming me for them and began to gave me a cold shoulder. I tried to save the relationship but it was hopeless.

Other than time, there was another cure for me: I found two other friends (who knew nothing about my breakup). I met them the same time when my relationship went sour. At first I only made friendly conversation with them, but gradually I found that they were more geniune than the last friends. They are currently my friends, but having been betrayed before I find myself more wary this time.

Yeah. Don’t understand why we didn’t take it past friendship in HS, but we didn’t.

Totally. As far as overcoming grief? It just happened over time. Humans are pretty adaptive creatures; I would often try and throw myself into something new (not necessarily a relationship) to try and figure out more of what I needed in my life to fill in the blanks. I haven’t found my real soulmate, I suppose, but I like to believe that there are multiple soulmates out there for all of us. Just takes the right mix of timing and luck to find them.

In fact, one of the very few regrets of my life.
One of the very few.
I made up for it later though, and then some .
So it all works out I guess.

A “soulmate” is not the same as the ideal mate for a person. A soulmate is one who understands you and gets you, and also can call you on your bullshit, and the understanding you have of the other is the same. It is a two way relationship but not necessarily a romantic one.

A soul mate understand and accepts your flaws. An ideal love is one who loves you despite your flaws.

Nah, I hate that notion anyway. Soulmate sounds like something Michael Bolton made up to make people puke.

^^^^ “Because I’m happy!!...”

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ You’re going to have to elaborate, coz you lost me there.

Happy. Just a counterpoint to your crankiness!

Hahaha, i’d work on that if I were you, pretty fucking amateurish.
Cranky & unhappy because I don’t like a sickly sweet ethos? LOL

So why did you check in to this post if it annoyed you?

Err, it didn’t annoy me & I answered because I can.

Time is all there is to overcome the feelings of grief, other then distracting yourself with things like work or hanging out with friends. But eventually your work day will come to an end and your friends go home. I would not say soul-mate but there were 2 that I believe if we had the proper chance we could have happily grown old together. The first messed it up, we were attending a school where we met. His cheating ex left the school and dumped him to be with with somebody else. But the moment a friend of hers told her that he had happily moved on with a new girl at the school. This bi*ch decided to claim she was pregnant with his kid, and he believed her. And went back to her as he thought it was the right thing to do. I think they were originally from Maine, but he actually tried giving me a candybar as if that would heal my broken heart. So he left the school in MA, I wonder if he ever thought about me again. The 2nd was somebody I began to date after getting out of an abusive relationship, when my abusive ex got me at my cousins house was begging me to be with him again and after several No’s from me he said “why is because this new guy you have been dating” (look of how does he know on my face) Oh your wondering how I know?” “I have been following you” “If I cant have you no one will” when i replied yeah and if you kill me you will be the first suspect and will be caught. He replied “yeah well if I ever see the 2 of you walking down the street I will run you both over, If I ever see you guys somewhere I will kill him” he later forced me to break it off with the guy while he stood right next to me as I did so over the phone. I had to leave the state for a couple of weeks to get him out of my life or at least try. When I returned I still had to get a restraining order to fully get him out of my life. So for the second time in my life I lost a man that I’m sure I would have happily grown old with. but since my abusive ex was 2x his size I could not bear the thought of the guy i was falling for to get hurt because of me.