@Hypocrisy_Central How is it hard to understand having a fear of the unknown? We all know we will die eventually, but most of us don’t know the why and how of it. I can understand someone having a fear because they don’t know what’s coming… And not just regarding their dearh, but other aspects of life as well, such as management changes at work, etc.
As for pain and suffering, many of us have experienced someone suffering in their last days. Who would want that for themselves? I don’t see why the fear of pain and suffering is hard to understand. I think most people would prefer a pain free peaceful death.
As for worrying about loved ones once you are gone, if I was told I was terminally ill and going to die soon, I would definitely be worried about my husband and children. While I’m sure they would get help from family, it’s not the same as the love and caring that I give them. I don’t want any harm to come to them, now or after I’m gone.
As for isolation, I know I don’t want to die alone, Especially if I’m awake at the time of my passing. I’ve been with patients that have died alone. While some are fine being alone, others are not. Some just want someone there to be with them when the time comes.
As for the non-existence part, that would depend on what the person believes happens after death. If they believe that is the end and after death there is nothing, I would believe the mere will to survive would come in to play.
All of these are issues people face while they are still living. These are the things they think about and worry about due to their past experiences. The fact that once you are dead and these things won’t be an issue anymore does not erase the fact that they are things you may experience in your last moments of life. Even if they are gone shortly after we experience them and we won’t know it afterward, we still experience them. That is what the fear and concern is about.
Everyone deals with death and the actual act of dying differently. Some are completely at peace with it, even welcome it, while others aren’t ready to go yet. Basic compassion and an attempt to understand how they feel goes a long way. Someone’s death is about them and their beliefs, not you (general you) and your beliefs.