Roommate problems?

I feel for you, nothing worse than living with total slobs. It might be time to have a talk with the roomies and tell them, straight up, yes, confrontation that you will not tolerate their sloppy habits anymore and you are not their freaking daddy. You didn’t sign up to be a parent to a bunch or 5 year olds and that if they don’t start cleaning up after themselves and stop smoking things in the house that you are going to either report them or ask to be assigned new room mates. I’d tell them that the jigs up and shape up or ship out.

Can you talk to your dorm or apartment manager and ask advice on what your options might be? I’d just tell them that they can be as pissed off as they want, just shows how immature they really are.
Just tell them you are sick of their crappy conduct and cleaning up after them and are giving them one last chance to man up, no further warnings or discussion. First you have to have a solid backup plan because you must follow through with whatever you say or you lose all credibility crying wolf if you aren’t going to actually bite. haha

Good luck!

Move out. Guy’s don’t learn to pick up after them selves if you do it for them.

I was going to talk to my RA (resident adviser) about it tomorrow and see what they have to say about it. And that’s what I told the Cleaning head when he came in on Wednesday to tell me that we need to clean my room and after I told him nothing of it was mine he told me I need to go to RA’s about it ( but he kinda said it in a cocky pissed off tone) and that its my job to clean it if they aren’t. I mean instead of going to RA i could just blackmail them about the weed and smoking and underage drinking and threaten to go to RA if they don’t pick it up and start cleaning , cause if i tell RA that they are smoking in res they will get kicked out and i really don’t want that to happen cause i don’t want to seem like a dick and ruin their lives and waste their parents money.

Put all of their garbage on their beds. Tell them that their beds was the only space because everything else is dirty.

@tinyfaery wish i could do that but I don’t have key cards to their rooms

Put all of their garbage in a box outside. Say that outside is the only place because the communal space is dirty and has no room.

Can you request a dorm re-assignment? There’s nothing you can do to force them to clean up after themselves. Threatening them will only make them want to retaliate.

@dappled_leaves I can try it is the end of first semester so they might say that I had lots of time earlier in the year to switch rooms

I second @dappled_leaves idea to request a new room. Now that the semester is ending, this may be the perfect time for a move, as some people may be graduating now. Put in the request. If you report your roommates, you risk having issues with them for the rest of the year, unless your RA is willing to handle it in a way that they wouldn’t know you reported them.

Good luck. It can be very hard living with people, especially ones you didn’t get to pick and ones that won’t do their share of the work.

it is very hard to live with them , I just can’t believe people can be so childish and act like they still need someone to clean up after them and that they don’t have to do anything.

You are kinda screwed. If you complain you are a narc and then what is now just living with slobs will be living with slobs that will rub your stuff on their buttholes. You are not dealing with reasonable people. You are dealing with idiots that think that now that their parents aren’t around they can do whatever they want.

Your best bet here is to become a slob yourself or get assigned to another room or get a place off campus.

@johnpowell I already am a slob (sorta, I leave clothes everywhere in my room,, but its closed all the time and no one can see it) but I cant take living with them. I found out when I got home that the toilet they plugged Thursday morning was still plugged and smelled like shit.

@Hunter144 Sadly, not everyone has parents that have prepared them for a life outside of their parent’s house. I have a son that is almost a teen and a lot of his friends do not know how to cook. clean, or do their own laundry. My son hates having chores, but we try to explain to him that this is so he can take care of himself when he moves out.

@johnpowell but i do my own dishes and take out my own garbage

I would talk to the RA about requesting a move. It is pretty safe to say that you aren’t the only person having this problem. Maybe they could pair you up with a cleaner people that are looking to get rid of a slob. But you are right that it could be a problem with it being so late in the year. Ideally the RA wouldn’t say anything to the current roommates if they can’t find you a new place.

If they are smoking weed in the dorm, they may get all of you kicked out (of the dorm and/or from school). Your problems may extend beyond having messy roommates.

would it be cruel of me if my roommates didn’t do the dishes before they left ( there is 4 weeks worth sitting on the sink waiting to be washed ) and i did them for them but i only left them one bowl,plate,glass,knife,fork, and spoon and put the rest in my? or would that be too much ?

@Hunter144 A solution is to use disposable cups, plates and cutlery. It would go a long way in to helping the situation. I’m sure that they would love the chance to get out of doing dishes.