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Why do people think it's ok to crush if you're married?
Surprisingly a lot of people online think it’s okay to crush and have feelings for someone that isn’t your partner as long as you don’t act on them by cheating. To me a crush is when you start to have feelings, you start thinking of then, get butterflies, etc.
Sure we are human, you are attracted to some people by personality or looks from time to time. But with my bf I never had an urge to want to be with someone or wonder, I find others handsome but that’s it. With my ex I admit I had maybe two or three crushes which were kind of “fed” by my actions and it was because of something missing in my relationship and me being unhappy.
So to me, I think crushes aren’t ok. Attractions yeah but when you start to fantasize constantly about this other person I just can’t think it’s ok if your mind starts to revolve around this other person. It’s a dangerous line you’re walking along in my opinion.
Does anyone out there agree with me at all or am I the only one in this world? Lol
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