How should we go with judging someone?

I think we all judge in some ways. You did it. You said they had to be a non-believer and lover of art. It’s just something I try to be aware of so I don’t do it too much.

Too many people will judge based on only one side of a story. Being open minded if life as well as in love will serve you well. Sure, you’ll have to draw the line somewhere, but be endlessly flexible!

Well, first and foremost, she has to be recognizable as a human female. I know that criterion may not apply to all guys, obviously, because some guys don’t particularly care for women in the first place (in that way), but it doesn’t even apply to all hetero guys, either.

I used to think that I was shallow because I felt that only certain physical types of women really appealed to me, but I’ve since disabused myself of that notion: most of them do in one way or another, at least physically. Some more than others, of course. But after that…

What I admire most in the women who attract me these days is “a certain intelligence”, even if it’s not aligned with my own. (I figure that if she’s really smart, she’ll eventually come around to my way of thinking because of the force of my own intellect and argument. If she’s not so smart, then she’d better be great in bed for our frequent make-up sex.) But I’m not kidding about the intelligence thing: my latest relationships have been with women whose politics, for example, were diametrically opposed to my own – and we sometimes had some good political discussions and friendly arguments – or we simply avoided the topic and stuck to things that we did agree upon, or wish to explore together (or to mock; there’s plenty of stupid in the world for a couple of smart folks to join forces and mock together).

And aside from that, I always admire a certain toughness in women that belies their smaller physical stature. As I age and experience more of life than I had led in a relatively sheltered life in middle-class America I continue to be amazed by stories of immigrants to this country (and to others) who have raised families under tremendous adversity, survived attempted murder and suicide attempts and gone on to thrive in any number of ways.

So there it is for me, the trifecta: beauty, brains and toughness.

We all judge. Or a nicer way of putting it. Is we all take in information and come to a conclusion about things and people, whether we know all the facts or not. Most of the time it is based on how it effects us.

For instance. How many people that you may know to be hugger would hug a homeless person that looked a bit dirty. Assumptions are they may be crazy, filled with bugs or can mug you or are on drugs or have HIV. Other assumptions, are they are lazy or crazy and they just rather beg for money than work. They are just bums. All assumptions. But we do them to protect ourselves. I consider myself an equal opportunity judger. I believe every man, woman and child are capable of the worst in man. But until I see something that leans me in that direction per individual. I will reserve my judgement.

I also believe that each person is capable of great things, but I won’t bet my home on each individual. Humans are messed up and very complicated. Making snap judgement can sometimes protect you from harm. We are hard wired to protect ourselves and our families.

I judge people on 3 criteria; Regardless of race, creed or religion.

1, Are they stupid? I define stupid as anyone who doesn’t know why they believe something and resort to swearing rather than having a intelligent debate. EX: Feminists are not capable of reasoned or civil discussions that don’t mesh with their worldview. I tell them that if they want to be respected than act respectful. That never goes over well.

2, Are they hateful? Folks that troll, whether in the internet or in real life. I have little regard for people that act nasty for no apparent reason. EX: Evolutionists tend to have a smug attitude and they have little regard for the opinions of others. They’re so diluted by the propagandized bologna they ingest they become cynical, self righteous blowhards.

3, Are they loyal to the Republicans or Democrats? This tells me they have poor reasoning skills and are incapable of thinking for themselves. Clearly, this type of person has no concept of reality as they enjoy clinging to their bubble of lies so tenaciously. It is exactly like “Stockholm Syndrome.” It’s a mental illness.

Incidentally, George Bush could not have gone through with all the things he did without Democrat collusion. At the same time, the disaster that is Obama could not have caused the damage that he has without Republican collusion. Things get worse no matter which sides win. But one is better than the other. Keep telling yourself that. (sigh)

Judge not, lest ye be judged.

I have done enough bad things in my life that I don’t feel anyone has the right to judge others.

I really do try not to judge others and accept people for who they are, including their good and not so good aspects. Who am I to judge others, I certainly have made my fair share of mistakes. Nobody is perfect.