Have you ever felt ashamed of yourself for judging someone to quickly?

I have. I’m trying to remember the situation. This is a good question.

Well, when I was first told I was going to be teaching at the jail I was kind of scared. These guys were criminals man!
But after a week or so they became some of my favorite people. They loved me too.

Yes. I’ve been guilty of it here.

I have as well.
Thanks for the answers.

Wish more had answered.

Maybe their ashamed to?

Occasionally, but I am pretty intuitive, I can tell really quickly whether or mot I like someone and read people well. I try to catch myself often thought if I find I am making snap judgments.

Uh, I’m American and from the Midwest . . .

I have, and I was embarrassed because I knew better.

But the older I get, the less I judge. So I’m getting to know a lot of interesting people that I wouldn’t have talked to years ago. I like it!

I don’t feel guilty or ashamed about it. I’m allowed to form opinions of people in my head, whether they are snap judgements or not. The important things are a: I don’t repeat them to anyone else and potentially hurt that persons feelings and b: I accept when my snap judgement is incorrect and don’t hold my wrong impression against that person.

I have become friends with people that I initially didn’t like very much and on the flip side have decided to keep my distance from people that I originally thought I liked.

Like @Coloma, I’m very intuitive. Not to be confused with infallible. Of course I’ve fallen into this trap, but I don’t like the word ‘judge’. I’ll say I’ve formed a negative opinion too quickly.

I’m not embarrassed about it because more often than not I believe I formed a hasty bad impression only to find out that I was correct.

Translation:
First – “What an ASS!”
Second – “Hey, he/she seems really okay!”
Final – “What an ASS!”
THEN I’m sort of embarrassed.

Sure I have at times, judged or formed an opinion of someone too quickly. Then, later on changed my mind about the person, but I don’t feel guilty or ashamed about it, I just admit I was dead wrong about the person and chalk it up as an error on my part.

I’ve done it based on a stereotype, and that made me ashamed. Teaching at the jail helped a lot with that. On the outside I’d see some gang banger and I’d just grin and him and say “Hi!”
They always smiled and said “Hi!” back.

One time I was in a parking lot at a gas station. There was some thuggy, gang banger kid in a little car a few feet across from me on the other side of the pumps. He was in a little car, and I didn’t know if he had seen the giant hole right in front of his car, so I brought it to his attention.
He thanked me and said something else, and I was amazed at how soft spoken, well spoken, and nice he was. So, bad on me for being amazed.

@Dutchess_III Just out of interest, how did you know these people were gang bangers?

Well, if they weren’t they wanted people to think they were. The sagging britches, red or blue bandanna, the posturing.