Shoe and style suggestions for an awkward height couple?

My vote is for each of you to wear what you like and embrace who you are. If your sweetie isn’t insecure about your height difference, there’s no reason for you to alter your personal style.

Wear whatever you feel comfortable in and to hell with whoever thinks what. It’s your life.

You haven’t mentioned anything about how he feels about all of this. If he’s fine with it then there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be also.

He’s still with you because he loves you regardless of who is which height. Otherwise he would have been gone.

The most important thing is the relationship between the two of you. People come in all different types of physical packages, short tall and everything in between. So what? It’s what’s in he heart that matters.

So, wear what you’re comfy in and have a great time at the event. Other people don’t get a vote. It’s YOUR relationship.

I think you should wear what you want and what makes you both comfortable. When I say comfortable I don’t only mean physically comfortable, but also comfortable in terms of the height difference. I really don’t like being much taller than the people around me. That goes for other women too. I often am around women who are 5’2” and I am 5’6” if I have in heels and they don’t the height difference bother me sometimes. That doesn’t even have anything to do with stereotypes about gender and that men “should” be taller.

If I were you I would probably wear a low heel, 2–3 inches, but you certainly can wear flats. You can always wear flats. I assume his shoes will have a ½–1 inch heal. That’s easy to find with a typical dress shoe. Actually, men’s shoes give more height I think, because the entire sole is higher. In a woman’s shoe you can easily find a shoe that just lifts the back of the foot.

Do you live in cold weather? Boots will have higher heeled options for men if he would like to be a little taller for the party.

You’ve put a lot of thought into it already and know your options. Why not do a test run with him and see how you each feel?

Put your outfit on with him and try different shoes starting with your tallest. If it’s weird, it will be weird right away and you can try shorter shoes until it’s not. You each get a vote, and just be honest.

This isn’t the last event you might want to wear heels to, so might as well get the question answered.

alright, well I’ll bring an assortment when we go and I’ll tell him to do the same and we’ll just work it out.

The 3 inch heel may be the move. Tall enough to count as a “heel” and raise my butt, low enough to not add too much height once he has on thick soled shoes + lifts

Fingers up I say! Blow anyone else!

The big question in my mind is “will there be dancing?” It’s the only scenario I can think of in which shoes for you might be critical. Perhaps a spare pair for dancing should be considered. Otherwise, why not wear your heels or whatever makes you happy. Come midnight you can always slip out of the heels or sit down for that big kiss. Remember nothing tops guzzling champagne when it comes to smothering silly anxieties. Drink up and live it up.

@stanleybmanly Are the dancing shoes the tall ones or the flat ones?

These are super cute dressy flats. I don’t do high heels, even though I’m 5’4”. I just don’t care for heels, so I’m always on the lookout for cute flats.

I don’t like the tennis shoes look for dressy occasions. It seems like it’s trying too hard to look edgy, but it comes across as sarcastic and lazy. Something like This would look great with his outfit. Or These or These