If you make plans to go out with a friend and they cancel on you but don't say when they are next available isn't that rude ?

Plans are just that…. plans and I do not then demand that anyone who for what ever reason canceled to immediately make a new date. That would be rude on my part to expect that anyone could at the drop of a hat then commit to a new time and day let alone it working with my schedule. Give them a couple days or more to sort through their calendar.

okay.

Is this hypothetical or did it actually happen?

How long has it been? Maybe there’s a lot going on in their life right now, and they’ll check in with you later. I’d give it some time before I did or thought anything. If it’s only the first time, I’d even let it slide.

As long as they give you some advance notice, it’s not that rude. You don’t have to make new plans right there on the spot.

I don’t think it’s a big deal.

If your friends cancel on you all the time then I would probably hestitate to make plans with them, but I wouldn’t get all technical about what they say when they cancel, all I would care about is they call me in advance enough that it doesn’t inconvenience me, and even then if it was the first time or a one time short notice cancellation I wouldn’t care. These things happen.

What, a rain check for a social outing? No, I wouldn’t expect someone to give me a “make up date”.

ok.. I guess I am a tense freak :) lol

I am guessing that within the next week or so you guys will chat and make a new date.

@chinchin31 Are you American? Do you live in America? It might be a cultural difference.

I bet.. Many people find it hard to get to know Chinese people.. I guess cultural differences play a huge role.
E.g., there’s never “tell-the-one-you’re-canceling-when-you-are-next-available-thing” here. If we wanna make a date with someone, we just ask, and if he’s too busy, he’ll just say:’’‘Oh, sorry, I have blabla things to do, maybe next time.’’

No I am not Chinese or American. I prefer not to say where I am from. But I grew up very British/English with American influcences too so I a sometimes oversensitive about manners etc.
My friend is Asian.

@chinchin31 No, you’re not oversensitive. Come on.
Maybe it’s just every group of people have their own ways to get along with people, you know, like expressing their feelings and the way we understanding what each other means, and there’s general differences in our ways&manners, thus sometimes leading to some misunderstanding, I think.

@wsxwh111 ok :)