How do you feel when you make a new Fluther-friend?

I very re-discovered a jelly I had known earlier. It feels great to make new friends!

We need a “Barney” song on this thread!

@longgone Or Mr. Rogers?

Same feeling when I make a real-life friend. And the last time was some months ago. Too bad they left :(

I’m always tickled if it’s a newer member. Even if we don’t see eye-to-eye I’ll do whatever I can to support their membership. Pats on the back, navigation advice, poo-pooing negativity.

I just recently shared email with a longer standing member, and that’s been fairly rewarding, too.

Great! The biggest thing is getting them to stay. There was one Jelly within the past month who had some interesting discussions and posted on a lot of my past ones. I haven’t seen him in a while, but his profile says he last logged on 10 days ago.

Making friends is always a good thing. By the way, the Barney song mentioned earlier… did ya’ll know it is to the tune knick knack paddywhack, but slowed down?

I think the theme song for Cheers would be good.

I’m always tickled when I make an actual on line friend, especially when I actually talk to them on the phone. I got to talk to Rarebear a couple of months ago!

Like when you lose a pound, then find a fiver.

Also, when you dip into a bag of Midget Gems & take out a black one…mmmmmmm

New member, old member, any member, it makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside.

^What she said.

Connecting with new friends is a joy whether through Fluther or in real life. Regardless of its past popularity, Fluther still has more than its fair share of fabulous members. There are so many intelligent and caring people here. I feel lucky to count those I’ve connected with as friends.

@Earthbound_Misfit Still hoping to have tea and biscuits together at some point.

That’s guaranteed when I make it over to your neck of the woods or you make it here. You can give me a guided tour of your part of the world and I’ll reciprocate.

Once I get my time travel machine up and running we’ll be in business.

I love making new friends but find it dissappointing when they don’t stick around very long.

But, that’s the Internet.

the term “friend” is being thrown around too carelessly.

^^ Not by me. One of the best friends I have, and I have numerous great friends in real life, is a woman I’ve never met except online. And that’s @gailcalled who has supported me and chided me through some of my worst times. I do not throw the word friend around lightly at all.

Gee, @ragingloli , I consider you my friend. You are good company in the Watering Hole. I care about the days you seem to be having a rough time of things. We disagree on some things, but friends do. You are usually entertaining, thought provoking, and sometimes thoughtful. Isn’t that friendship?
I don’t think we have to trade phone calls, meet in person, or have lunch together to be friends. What do you consider friendship?

The perfect gift from a wonderful fluther friend (whom I have not yet met).

(Gift on left, model on right).

I bet you didn’t know that penguins could hold a watercolor brush.

^^^^^ I love that! Those little penguin feet really know how to use a paintbrush.

I don’t hang here long enough to make or keep “friends;” but I’ve had wonderful connections with many, including the artist janbb. You must get your tail feathers to Austin one of these days. We can officially launch a friendship.

And I’m very fortunate to have met the esteemed Augustlan in real life. I indeed consider her a friend.

Oh, there’s a Pachy who lives in my neck of the woods, too; but I claim that friendship pre-fluther.

^^It takes years of practice. But so does reading with an ice-cold tushie!

@picante I might be coming to Austin this Spring. Watch for further developments.

I feel great.

I also feel really sad when it seems I have lost a friend. going to go cry now

Hmm. I wonder what Jackson Pollock might have achieved with flippers.

@dappled_leaves Drippin’ flippers – what a concept!

^ ^ ^ That sounds like penguin porn. Ew.

Ew too.

@Here2_4
A friend is someone whom you can call up on a whim, and ask him if he wants to hang out, eat a kebab, play a few rounds of billiards, go to a pub, or if he could help move some furniture or bodies.
Someone who you can tell “hey, you look like shit today”.
I do not even know what anyone on the internet looks like.

Toy Story got it about right, Jungle Book too.

@janbb “Ew too.” Great band, except that Bono doesn’t think he’ll be able to play guitar anymore after his horrific biking accident. ;-o

^^haha! Good one!

@ragingloli Well, I would love a game of billiards, if Germany weren’t so darned far away. I know lots of abandoned wells, so if there are bodies… oh, and you do look like shit today, but I won’t judge, because I do too. Also, thanks for all the kittens. here is something for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYgDg02Psro

I thought @prairie_rose showed promise, but I see the account is gone.

@ibstubro: She’s been gone for a few weeks. I thought she was a great addition, too.

Yeah. That was a shame. She did mention about not being able to fit in…

She should have stuck around…I tried to coach her to choose her battles.
Too bad she couldn’t just enjoy the company of those who enjoyed hers.

@ibstubro: She was fighting?

I don’t think so. I think she just took disagreement too much to heart. Maybe took the whole Fluther experience too seriously, as newbies oftentimes do?

@ibstubro I didn’t see her in disagreement with anyone here. And she told me once that she lacked patience. So… yeah, maybe she took things too seriously.

I remember her telling me she didn’t feel like she fit in, and I told her she fit in just fine – that there were several off us that obviously liked her – and that she should just relax and ease into it.

I don’t think that it was acrimony that made her feel she didn’t fit in – I think it was that there seemed to be a history among most members, and she felt she got here too late to become one of the group.

I mean, we all feel like that when we first join, but those of us who stayed pushed past that and found our own voice. Some don’t and just move on.

I think she felt attacked. You have to have pretty thick skin to live here. I don’t remember what specific situation but she PM’d me, asked why people were being so mean

I had a fair number of PMs with her too, @Dutchess_III.
Seems she might have had better support that a lot of newbies (at least you and I were supportive), so maybe it wasn’t the place for her.
Still, I had hopes.

I guess she was expecting more Q&A and less social site, as touted.

@dappled_leaves Yes! You have said what I wanted to say. I just didn’t know how to word it.

Things like that happens in all kinds of communities I think. Some fit in very fast, but some need some time.