Fortunately, I’ve never had to give up a pet, but I did adopt a cat from someone who was moving into a place with someone allergic to cats. So she put an ad on Craigslist (A HORRIBLE IDEA because you have no control over what will happen to them.)
Anyhow, Baby, the cat, took quite a while to adjust to me. It was obvious that she had been well cared for and very much loved but she was one of those very shy “hidey” types.
For over a month she hid away in the cabinet under the sink in my bathroom and would only come out to eat, drink or use the box when she was alone in there. .
But every time I went in I would talk softly to her and leave her a treat (Jane, had left me several of the bags of treats which Baby loved as well as her toys)
It took around a month all told before she would venture out of the bathroom but she would gradually come out and let me feed her treats and pet her until she was ready to venture out of the room itself.
And eventually she adjusted to both me and my other cat even sleeping with me at night. I knew she had really turned the corner when she wanted me to play mousie with her.
She would hop up on the bed and drop it in my lap wanting me to throw it. She would then retrieve it and come back and drop it in my lap again till she was tired.
Meanwhile, I had stayed in touch with Jane by email, sent her pics etc. because I knew how much she loved Baby. She was crying when she dropped her off at my house.
Anyhow, fast forward to two years later when I knew I’d soon be moving halfway across the country. I let Jane know in case she might like a last visit with Baby before I moved (she had not seen her at all since dropping her off thinking visiting would be too hard for Baby to handle).
Anyhow, she wasn’t there five minutes before Baby was playing Mousie with her and rubbing against her legs and seeking petting. Obviously, even tho she adjusted to me, she hadn’t forgotten her first Mommy.
As we talked, it turned out that she had eventually bought her own place. I had been concerned about getting Baby cross country and preventing her hiding under the Motel beds since we would have two stopovers.
So, I asked Jane if she would like to have Baby back now that she had her own place. She was thrilled but I did make it on condition that she would never rehome Baby again.
That was an easy commitment for her to make as she realized how much of a mistake she had made in giving her up just to live with someone who was allergic to cats.
She was very young and had never had to give up a pet before. But after this lesson, she realized she never would ever consider it again.
So, you never know what the future holds and most pets are far more resilient than we might think. Yes, I’m sure that Baby’s first month was a pretty unhappy time for her. But the point is that she did adjust and was eventually playing and cuddling like her normal self.
And don’t forget that this cat was on the extreme end of shy and scared of new circumstances so that’s why it took her so long. But she did adjust.
But as long as an animal is rehomed with a new owner who cares for and loves it, chances are they’ll be fine sooner or later.
Taking a pet to a no-kill shelter is a far better option to euthanizing it. Life finds a way and most pets will adjust eventually and have a happy life.
I think Coloma’s situation was pretty unique because birds really do have very specialized needs so I can certainly understand her reasoning regarding her goose.
But most cats and dogs can and do adjust to a new situation as long as they have an understanding person who adopts them.